My experience with sexual harassment in the Scala community

Post by gher-shyu3i » Tue, Apr 27, 2021, 11:40 PM UTC

_f1dq wrote: post #280

There is a lot about the sexual events in this post that, to me, highlights something I feel is important which is: we parents need to get better had having conversations with our children around sex. This girl was feeling uncomfortable and crying but at the same time "didn't think those behaviors were problematic". I can't help but wonder if her parents never sat her down and discussed situations like this and, I ge…

Post by voces » Tue, Apr 27, 2021, 11:43 PM UTC

anon_tor_12345 wrote: post #380

voces wrote: post #326

Since the pattern is so similar, I now recognize this as a form of harmful #metoo activism. - Attack entire community, not individuals - Court of Public Social Justice - The charges amount to unwanted advances being made during a social interaction where that would be acceptable -- not sexual harassment, nor illegal behavior. Compare https://medium.com/@kristianlum/statistics-we-have-a-problem... Make the problem abo…

>advance towards you, instead of feeling flattered and politely declining Do you know what "advance" means? It's old-timey English for aggression as in "The enemy advanced on the capital". No that's not how it's used to today but it still typically has very negative connotations. So I think it's rich irony that due to your own (probable) inarticulateness and (probable) bias you think something that could experienced…

Post by FireBeyond » Tue, Apr 27, 2021, 11:44 PM UTC

Gatsky wrote: post #438

epicureanideal wrote: post #256

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Sometimes character assassination is coordinated. I personally only slightly increase the probability of something being true when multiple accusers come forward. I still want to see proof. What if a bunch of your ex-girlfriends or ex-boyfriends got together and decided to ruin your life with accusations?

Is this theoretical or do you have an example of a case where a woman publicly made detailed accusations which turned out to be false? Edit: This is an honest question by the way. Thanks to those who did provide some examples.

Post by suifbwish » Tue, Apr 27, 2021, 11:45 PM UTC

quickthrowman wrote: post #510

grammarnazzzi wrote: post #502

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> This lady seems to have her head screwed on. I don't agree. She did not set her boundaries. She did not effectively communicate boundaries. She did not enforce boundaries. When she doesn't get the outcome she wants, she turns to blame rather than introspection.

Implicit in your post is the idea “Power is equal in every relationship” which is obviously false. This is clear cut victim blaming.

Post by monocasa » Tue, Apr 27, 2021, 11:45 PM UTC

elzbardico wrote: post #501

belorn wrote: post #230

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Sweden and Uk spent tens of millions dealing with extradition case for just getting a hearing over an accusation with similar amount of evidence. Technically the legal system could do the same in her case.

We are not in the 80’s anymore. At least in the western world the police is far more prepared to help victims than in the past. Usually the victim is supported by a female investigator, because differently from the past, at least in bigger cities a sizable portion of the police force are women. We are creating this culture of woman fearing getting help from police by pretending things didn’t change during the last 40…