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> essentially powerless to do something about it given the family relationship Yeah, the fallout of telling a person they can’t drive is unreal. It took a couple years to go from incredulity towards me to finally accepting that I’m not joking/grumpy/changing my mind. Some bad driving is so egregiously bad though that it can’t be chalked up as a lapse of judgement or something. There is a strange sort of entitlement t…
I have a similar situation with an 87 year old family member that still drives and I've offered to be on call for chauffeur service or to pay for cabs or whatever it takes but they will keep doing it until they either die from other causes or get into an accident, which in my opinion is only a matter of time. So far I've managed to get them to rely on me for two really long rides and at least they no longer go on the…
It's gotten bad enough that we have to tactically lie to him to keep him from any unnecessary rides, but he will not stop if he doesn't have a wake-up call. Luckily he only drives very short distances which are all slow roads, but still, it's frightening to just be waiting for the day something bad happens.
I wish I knew how to bring the topic up in a way we can really talk about it. I have tried being extremely empathetic and non-pushy and careful, which has helped with other topics, but just not on this one. If anyone has tips or ideas I'd love to hear them!