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People who die by suicide want to stop suffering, not to stop living

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Re: People who die by suicide want to stop suffering, not to stop living

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So long as it's not state mandated, more power to them. If they feel 50 more years are not something they want why should we force them to?

Because the vast majority of them eventually (often pretty soon) change their mind about it.

A permanent solution to a temporary problem still solves the problem

Re: People who die by suicide want to stop suffering, not to stop living

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I've always found it interesting that addictive behaviour is often seen as a virtue by our society if it's about the 'right sort of thing' (as far as society is concerned). We end up considering people as 'dedicated' or 'committed' to some cause or other. If they are a workaholic, or pious, or a sports superstar, or a concert pianist, chances are there is an addictive personality that just happens to have gotten atta…

No such thing as an addictive personality- it was invented by the pharmaceutical companies (the term) to play down the addictive effects of their drugs, doctors were told only people with addictive personalities will get hooked on the opioids

I can't say much about 'personalities' but it has been quite consistently demonstrated that some people are genetically predisposed and more likely to become addicted to certain substances than others regardless of social factors or even (pre-addiction) consumption patterns.

Re: People who die by suicide want to stop suffering, not to stop living

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> We may have not experienced prolonged pain, but we all have experienced suffering Sure, but people rarely consider suicide due to momentary suffering, or even suffering for a few weeks or month. People typically consider suicide when they can't see an end to their suffering, and while this is sometimes irrational there are also many cases where it isn't.

I've already pointed out that suffering is inherent to life for most of us, so it encompasses far more than "a few weeks or month[s]". You seem to be focusing on the aversion of physical or spiritual pain, but that's merely one sort of suffering which is not different in nature from the far subtler and less obvious suffering we all experience throughout our lives.

There is suffering and there is suffering. Even Buddha differentiated between the physical needs and the spiritual pain. We now know there is also mental pain and it is disingenuous to categorize all of them into a single category.

Re: People who die by suicide want to stop suffering, not to stop living

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This is something that I have had some personal experience with. I've known quite a few suicides, and survivors of the suicides of others. Very much a "walk a mile in a man's shoes" kind of thing. Everyone has opinions on the matter, until it hits them. Then, they have personal experience (not just an opinion). It sucks. In some cases, I can see why someone would want to end it all. In others, like this one[0], I fin…

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Re: People who die by suicide want to stop suffering, not to stop living

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As somebody who have been in and out mental hospitals, this is very familiar. At one point in my early twenties, I was literally thinking about killing myself every single waking second. Finally I decided to throw in the towel, and got around to planning my end. Sat there, ran through various scenarios in my head. All the way up to putting the gun in my mouth and pulling the trigger. My imagination always terminated…

I'm really glad to hear you made it through such a challenging time in your life. Your strength and determination are incredibly inspiring. I'm curious to know more about your healing process. Did you work on identifying and addressing the root causes of your pain, perhaps through therapy or counseling? Sometimes, personal issues can stem from our familial relationships. Did you find that to be the case in your journey? I'm interested to learn more about how you managed to overcome your struggles and achieve the peace you have today.

Re: People who die by suicide want to stop suffering, not to stop living

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AA and other twelve-steps programs are not inherently "religious-based". They only ask you to believe in some power higher than yourself that you can tap into as a source of inner sternness and restraint. You can call that a spiritual outlook if you like, but it's a very mild one and quite far from any organized or established religion. And it actually works quite well as far as helping people to stop drinking and st…

There have been many that linked it to being cultist (e.g. [1]). > And it actually works quite well as far as helping people to stop drinking and stay off alcohol for the long term. In any case, that is my biggest issue with AA and a lot of other "abstinence" programs (particularly those mandated by courts): they all but mandate that complete and utter sobriety is the only acceptable way instead of helping people to…

> sobriety is the only acceptable way instead of helping people to moderate their consumption

That only works for some people and not others (likely due to genetic factors amongst other reasons). Which can be quite hard to grasp for people who are actually able (or believe that they are...) to 'moderate their consumption'.

Re: People who die by suicide want to stop suffering, not to stop living

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“The so-called ‘psychotically depressed’ person who tries to kill herself doesn’t do so out of quote ‘hopelessness’ or any abstract conviction that life’s assets and debits do not square. And surely not because death seems suddenly appealing. The person in whom Its invisible agony reaches a certain unendurable level will kill herself the same way a trapped person will eventually jump from the window of a burning high-rise. Make no mistake about people who leap from burning windows. Their terror of falling from a great height is still just as great as it would be for you or me standing speculatively at the same window just checking out the view; i.e. the fear of falling remains a constant. The variable here is the other terror, the fire’s flames: when the flames get close enough, falling to death becomes the slightly less terrible of two terrors. It’s not desiring the fall; it’s terror of the flames. And yet nobody down on the sidewalk, looking up and yelling ‘Don’t!’ and ‘Hang on!’, can understand the jump. Not really. You’d have to have personally been trapped and felt flames to really understand a terror way beyond falling.”

-David Foster Wallace

Re: People who die by suicide want to stop suffering, not to stop living

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He could have ODed on opium from the dark web. He could have networked with other suicidal people to find a humane way to kill himself (or be killed). I hate that people steelman governmental oversight and approval of suicide by strawmanning the other options. In countries which legalize euthanasia it becomes easier to do it for more reasons. Just keep it illegal, but don't prosecute people who try to do it. When a p…

I would think my right to live also includes my right to die with dignity.

Sure. But just as you don't have a right to material support from the state in order to live, you don't have a right to material support from the state in order to die. Unless you happen to live in a country in which you do have such a right. Regardless, these rights are limited. I'm in favor of increasing the first right such that suicides are minimized, and reducing the second right to not prosecuting you for attempting suicide.

Re: People who die by suicide want to stop suffering, not to stop living

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The article is heavily focused on how to prevent suicide. They note that suicide is sometimes rational (they call it "existential", euphemistically). I'm all for removing the causes of people wanting to die. But if people have any rights at all, the right to decide when and how you die seems to be the most fundamental. It seems to be almost impossible nowadays to obtain the kinds of drugs (basically, barbiturates) th…

> Mostly the opposition to enabling killing yourself is ideological, and seems to be particularly prevalent among people with strong religious opinions. Kevin Yuill is an atheist. If you want the non-religious argument against state-sanctioned suicide read him (though, of course, as an individual he doesn't cover every anti-euthanasia atheist's point of view). I'm sorry for your particular situation.

> non-religious argument against state-sanctioned suicide

I don't like the word "suicide" at all. It has strong connotations of sin and criminality.

The phrase "state-sanctioned suicide" implies that the state has active involvement in someone taking their own life. What I'm talking about is the state not actively interfering to make it hard for someone to decide for themself how and when they die.

"My particular situation" is nothing; I'm fine, and whatever health problems I have are the result of a life of self-indulgence and dissolution.

Re: People who die by suicide want to stop suffering, not to stop living

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Keeping in line with the style of that comment: No, they're not.

Life is suffering. It's one of the 4 Noble truths of Buddhism. Ancient knowledge.

That is a misreading of what was said. Others have commented on it before. Life is unsatisfactory is closer to what Buddha said. He took great pains to separate physical needs from spiritual suffering. His eight fold path as a way to achieve nirvana is a solution for one of those problems. It does not put food on the table.
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