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Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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speedgoose wrote: post #375
throwaway892238 wrote: post #330

Cool? If you're not making a baby, sex is mostly a meaningless waste of time. Would rather be focused on a productive pursuit, as opposed to how I can get someone to squish their body against my body for endorphins. I mean, when you get down to it, if the point of sex is 'cuz it feels good', why not just take drugs, or skydive, or eat an entire pepperoni pizza? Less chance of disease, you don't have to make yourself…

I am not sure how you can compare eating a pepperoni pizza and sex, but anyway, sex is not always about pleasuring yourself. It can be an intimate moment you share with someone you love. You can give pleasure too. It’s definitely not a waste of time.

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Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by throwaway892238 »

metalliqaz wrote: post #465
throwaway892238 wrote: post #330

Cool? If you're not making a baby, sex is mostly a meaningless waste of time. Would rather be focused on a productive pursuit, as opposed to how I can get someone to squish their body against my body for endorphins. I mean, when you get down to it, if the point of sex is 'cuz it feels good', why not just take drugs, or skydive, or eat an entire pepperoni pizza? Less chance of disease, you don't have to make yourself…

You don't seem to understand what it's fore. It isn't just for procreation, or for 'endorphins', as you say. Interpersonal connection is important. Closeness with another person. Pull the foil off your windows, go outside, and make a connection with another human. It's good for you.

I hope you don't think sex is the only way to make an interpersonal connection...

Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by sph »

krageon wrote: post #660
sph wrote: post #496

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No. What is ironic is thinking being against porn is puritanical. It's not all black and white. Like many people outside of the US, I am as far from puritanism as possible, yet I maintain that porn is a cancer. We should have more sex instead. The hippies were onto something.

It is in fact possible to be further from puritanism, because you could not be against porn. There's nothing wrong with sex and there's nothing wrong with filming it or otherwise making money off of it.

That's a pretty reductive view of the matter, that completely misses the forest for the trees.

Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by sph »

benj111 wrote: post #123
sph wrote: post #8

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Both that and online porn has ruined us. It is an major epidemic that is still under the radar for how massive it is, in my opinion. And it's sad, because sex is very fun and porn is a very poor approximation of the real thing.

So the problem is simultaneously porn and Puritanism?

If you think the opposite of puritanism is PornHub, you have a pretty distorted view of sexuality. Both are degenerate, but they're not on the same axis at all. The fact that both replies to my comment share this view shows how unhealthy is our society's approach to sexuality.

Free, healthy, frequent consensual sex with real people for fun or otherwise, is miles better than either, and doesn't fit in any of the two black and white categories you have identified.

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Post by nootropicat »

xtracto wrote: post #472
CalRobert wrote: post #415

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Three years ago a HN user named Dexwiz wrote something that hit me hard. I'd felt this, but I never saw it put in to words so well. https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=20470085 """ The Screen and the Job have displaced almost everything else is our lives. Loneliness is just a primary symptom. The Screen, whether it’s TV, computer, or phone, has supplanted almost all social interactions. This manifests itself in thin…

Great insight! Another thing I came to realise is that current "social" media is extremely de-personalized (lack of a better term): back in the 80s and 90s, I participated in many public online places (I have always been shy in person). Those places (irc channels, WBS.net, ICQ, BBSs) were actually very social in that you actually made friendships. I travelled half the country after being invited to a Linux User Group…

Those interactions moved to discord (and telegram, although that's second-hand info).

I fully understand what you describe, and once I realized the truly abysmal return on time spent I cut my time on public social media by ~100x. It's just not worth it beyond an occasional comment.

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Post by jeffreyrogers »

aiisjustanif wrote: post #610
jeffreyrogers wrote: post #305

"Ctrl-F Marriage" gives no results. Surely decrease in marriages is the biggest driver. It's a lot easier to have sex with someone if you live with them. A straight person isn't going to find multiple new partners to sleep with per week and even if you have a boyfriend/girlfriend, unless you are cohabitating you probably only see them a few days per week.

> It's a lot easier to have sex with someone if you live with them. I promise you it’s just as easy if you live near each other and much of Europe isn’t get married in their early 20s but are still having sex.

I'm pretty sure Europe has the same pattern as America. It's not a European vs. America thing.

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Post by bamboozled »

Noos wrote: post #272
nnoitra wrote: post #98

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It's unfortunately a lot sadder than that. You'd be suprised at the amount of males that want to have sex but just can't get any. There is a serious case of looks inflation nowadays with Tinder etc.

there is inflation with everything since we are connected to everyone in the world. All programmers work at FAANG, all artists are superhumanly taleneted, all business owners make million dollar unicorns and look like actors, etc. Average is slowly being filtered out

Yes average is there still actually running things...

Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by bamboozled »

AlgorithmicTime wrote: post #47
vbezhenar wrote: post #23

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Men say that until they met a woman who wants sex everyday.

I mean, I have sex with my wife on average 3-5 times a week. It's not daily but it comes close. It only changes when she's recovering from giving birth or one of us is sick.

You have received the gold star for excellence.

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Post by ImPostingOnHN »

ryandrake wrote: post #600
verall wrote: post #352

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I'm not sure what your age/location is, but as a young American, young people filter for politics and religion in person just as fast as they do on a dating app. It is considered that compatible political and religious views are table stakes for a serious (non-hookup) relationship. For example, in my extended friend-aquaintance group, there's not a single young woman who would consider dating a conservative. Obviousl…

> For example, in my extended friend-aquaintance group, there's not a single young woman who would consider dating a conservative. Obviously conservative women exist, I have seen many on dating apps, the point is that the natural social circles have already formed strong bubbles such that hanging out let alone dating outside the tribe is unheard of. This is also a recent "feature", at least in the USA. My older exten…

it seems the country has grown less tolerant of intolerant political philosophies (ones which directly attack people, like saying they should have fewer rights, or die, etc.)

IMHO, that has been a result of said philosophies pushing harder than ever on said viewpoints, angry that yelling them louder is failing to convince most people they don't suck

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