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Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by annyeonghada »

MisterBastahrd wrote: post #533
throwaway2037 wrote: post #397

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I don't play video games, and I don't binge watch series, but why would this exlude women/gender-non-binary? They can and do enjoy both. And they could enjoy both with someone else. After all, what is the meaning of "Netflix and Chill"? I know many women who wish to do the same with another person, and that person need not look like Brad Pitt, et al. Perhaps I am reading too deep, but you make it sound like someone n…

Low energy people are inherently boring. The vast majority of people would rather have a SO with some sort of interest than someone who just sits around passing time while the world moves on without them. Most folks require the freedom to be alone at times for their own sanity's sake. Being a complete homebody who does nothing but sit at home all the time deprives both parties independence of action and thought. It's…

>The vast majority of people would rather have a SO with some sort of interest than someone who just sits around passing time while the world moves on without them

Really? Tell me where these people are! The vast, vast majority of couples I know just coast through life and sometimes they "hang out" and sometimes they take some photo and sometimes they partecipate in some friend's celebrations and so on and on. If they asked each other about their interest they would not have any.

Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by annyeonghada »

MisterBastahrd wrote: post #470
nnoitra wrote: post #98

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It's unfortunately a lot sadder than that. You'd be suprised at the amount of males that want to have sex but just can't get any. There is a serious case of looks inflation nowadays with Tinder etc.

I'm not surprised when you look at the quality of 20ish year old males. They expect sex to just fall in their laps without doing anything like learning to socialize or being interesting.

Have you ever questioned if 20 years old females are as desirable as they think they are? Because they are not.

Pretty handy to make all the fault of "males" while never ask them what desires they have, what they want in the other person while constantly emphasize females' desires. Have we ever question women about their own standard? Are they too high? Are they what men want? Do they bring something on the table or it's the usual "I'm a passive princess: entertain me, jester!", because if it is I prefer porn, it usually doesn't ask to pay for a date.

Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by alphabettsy »

eropple wrote: post #576
brewdad wrote: post #501

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You can be the most interesting person in the world but that's cold comfort in a world of dating apps if you aren't physically "attractive".

I don't think that that's true. I'm not particularly attractive. I'm not tall. I'm not fit. And yet I do all right. I do have a great dog, but I don't think that makes up for it. But I do think that people can detect a shitty vibe pretty quickly even through a couple photos and a bio, and Not Being That is a significant step up.

> But I do think that people can detect a shitty vibe pretty quickly even through a couple photos and a bio, and Not Being That is a significant step up.

Very much this.

Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by mmh0000 »

gowld wrote: post #259
Narretz wrote: post #179

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So you are not entertained when you have sex? Or do you just do it so the urge is fulfilled?

Do you eat, drink, and breath for "entertainment", or to fulfil basic health functions?

Generally yes, I eat for "entertainment". If I was eating to just continue living, I'd live off Huel[0]. But since flavor and diversity add a great amount of joy and -entertainment-, a vast majority of my meals are designed and prepared for entertainment.

[0] https://huel.com/

Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by ryandrake »

jimmyjazz14 wrote: post #515
onepointsixC wrote: post #174

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The world has never been more prosperous, safer, and more able to address the issues of its day, ever. Wars have been a near constant factor of human history for nearly all written history, and yet today we enjoy more peace as a species than any other era. In the past few decades we've seen extreme poverty decline dramatically. And we've never had so many viable options for decarbonization. When your parents had you,…

Its interesting that one of the most guaranteed ways to get down-voted online is to say the world isn't as bad as it seems, I would really like to understand the psychology behind that.

I think it's because comments like that are over-simplified and don't accurately describe the world as it is across the distributions of people.

For a hypothetical "Worldwide Average Person," things are quite better today than at any point in history. There are a lot of people who were dirt poor yesterday and are now less dirt poor today. For a small number of very well-off people, things are exponentially better today than ever. But for a significant number of people who had it really good in, let's say the 1950s and 1960s, things are noticeably and measurably worse in all ways today. If you're one of these people, the "Well that average person over there in Indonesia is better off" argument isn't convincing.

Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by aiisjustanif »

standardUser wrote: post #378

A lot of sex is not that great and therefore any overall reduction of sex may be a good thing, depending on which kind of sex we're having less of. Maybe a lot more married women are not having sex with their husbands, which traditionally was not always an option. Maybe young people are rushing less into big relationships, and so without a steady partner regular opportunities for sex are reduced while at the same tim…

> We should want people to find partners > where they have similar desires and where they can share in enthusiastic consent

Why?

This just all reads from a somewhat monogamous point of view when that’s not the point of the research. Quality is important but their is a significant amount of people in most western countries that wouldn’t define quality sex how you just did.

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Post by guerrilla »

Kye wrote: post #598
guerrilla wrote: post #570

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You seriously can't imagine being bombarded with messages from horny and desperate women is a great time? That having hundreds if not thousands to choose from is a grea time?

That sounds dreadful.

I suspect extremely few straight men would agree with you.

Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by aiisjustanif »

buggythebug wrote: post #92
youessayyyaway wrote: post #65

These threads are always fun, because they often say more about us commenters than the subject matter. Personally, I find the article's supernatural stimulus theory compelling. Sex takes a lot of time if you aren't being selfish about it. It's also boring, compared with other forms of entertainment and creative pursuits, pornographic or not. I'm not sure this is all that new, either. Jokes about the declining frequen…

"It's also boring" "These threads are always fun, because they often say more about us commenters than the subject matter." I will not quote anything else from you and leave it at that.

Was about to point out the same thing. Saying sex is boring says a lot about THAT person’s opinion on sex.

Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by MisterBastahrd »

annyeonghada wrote: post #601
MisterBastahrd wrote: post #533

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Low energy people are inherently boring. The vast majority of people would rather have a SO with some sort of interest than someone who just sits around passing time while the world moves on without them. Most folks require the freedom to be alone at times for their own sanity's sake. Being a complete homebody who does nothing but sit at home all the time deprives both parties independence of action and thought. It's…

>The vast majority of people would rather have a SO with some sort of interest than someone who just sits around passing time while the world moves on without them Really? Tell me where these people are! The vast, vast majority of couples I know just coast through life and sometimes they "hang out" and sometimes they take some photo and sometimes they partecipate in some friend's celebrations and so on and on. If the…

Literally everywhere. You've never met anyone with a hobby?

Re: Sex is going out of fashion?

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Post by aiisjustanif »

jeffreyrogers wrote: post #305

"Ctrl-F Marriage" gives no results. Surely decrease in marriages is the biggest driver. It's a lot easier to have sex with someone if you live with them. A straight person isn't going to find multiple new partners to sleep with per week and even if you have a boyfriend/girlfriend, unless you are cohabitating you probably only see them a few days per week.

> It's a lot easier to have sex with someone if you live with them.

I promise you it’s just as easy if you live near each other and much of Europe isn’t get married in their early 20s but are still having sex.

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