Earlier quoted context omitted.
I think there's this assumption that countries are like sentient beings who can 'decide' things. The reality of how a society functions, from cultural norms to laws to violence, is a unique combination of the whims and desires and priorities of the population, for better or for worse...countries don't want things, people do.
But countries do have a decision making process. It's called politics. It doesn't control every aspect of the country, and culture in particular is hard to control directly, but police is a government function, paid by taxes. If there's anything a country should be able to control, it's how their police operates.
> In my opinion, a police that's feared rather than trusted, is a sign of a police state or totalitarian regime. If that's not what the country wants to be, then it's a problem that needs to be fixed
The assumption is that if the police is feared / overly militaristic, then by definition that country must 'want' to be a police state. Given that Americans overwhelmingly, if asked, would not want to live in a totalitarian or a police state, then either we're not really a police state, or we're not capable of controlling how our police operates. I don't think the latter is true; we obviously have political control over our police. So is it possible that maybe we're not the jackbooted thugocratic police state that we're portrayed to be?