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Boys are constantly chided for pursuing women all through school and the media. Getting denounced as creepy or weird. Actually following that advice will lead you to die alone though.
Some people are timorous and some people are reckless; unfortunately public messaging is calibrated for the latter.
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> I'm plenty happy living my life as I see fit Then why would you imagine parents tell their kids that life is "fucking horrible", instead of telling them that life is "plenty happy"? Like, everything you describe, you have or will go through as well, and apparently you don't find it to be "shit. Absolute shit".
I'm happy, or at least as happy as I can be, but I don't consider the cycle of life as something I want to see repeated with successive generations. One lap around the course is plenty. If others want to bring more horses in, they're welcome to; as for me I'm not interested.
What I mostly see in this thread is nobody deeply caring about relationships, marriage, kids, and the like. As the article points out, the rise of sexual gratification without relationships, coinciding with women's reshaping of the financial stability side of relationships, has mostly just resulted in a lopsided winner takes all market around biological attraction. But sexual gratification is .. just ... that. Epheme…
> Ephemeral, weakly bonding, "childish." > ever any value in long term monogamous relationships rhetorical question ? I wonder if a large group of young people just do not know what true 'contentment' feels like. To truly be at peace. To feel like everything is just right. To be relieved of all insecurities in that one moment, and just take in something for all that is. None of my most cherished memories are ones of…
What if that's being alone modulo sexual satisfaction from porn or hookups? :sunglasses: :gigachad:
A man who is financially autonomous, practices basic hygiene and grooming, wears tasteful clothing, and approaches women with respect and manners has nothing to worry about. You don't need to make 6 figures, to be 6 feet tall, to have the body of The Rock or 2004 Brad Pitt's face. Having one interesting hobby is also a huge plus, even if it's as simple as hiking or jogging. You just need to be minimally interesting.…
Exactly this. I've been single for four months at 27 and dated a lot during that time and I noticed that the bar is set _so low_ to place yourself as a better candidate than, let's say 80% of other men, that's it's simply scary. Most men have literally nothing interesting to offer for a relationship. When you look at their situation from an objective point of view it's so obvious why they remain single and yet most a…
So all the best ones.
Programming, GNU/Linux, complex bideo gamez...
>and often show no interest in their potential partners' hobbies
So all the braindead ones for people who for some reason are too cognitively limited or environmentally discouraged to be into the ones above.
Sex, drugs, travel, shopping...
This stark sexual partitioning is either a joint failure of society and feminism in not encouraging women to do better or some redpill biological thing, but, either way, it sucks and the answer is the same: posthumanity. Let's go bb :clap:
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Culture matters. You can have the most "game" but if you grow up in Saudi Arabia or India you will almost certainly have a lower "count" than someone with no game who grew up in Brazil.
True, but what I'm saying is that the same overall approach - at least in my case - worked well in the US, even though things were harder at first (some tweaks were needed indeed). I bet things would be different in India or Saudi Arabia, however we're talking about the US here. I'm saying that if young American men had the opportunity to learn how to court women, they would have no problems finding mates.
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> A man living in NYC will have a better chance of finding love than a man in San Francisco purely based on the city that they live in [citation needed]
Looks like I should have used Seattle instead of SF :) https://www.quora.com/What-is-the-male-female-ratio-in-San-F... Ratio of men to women (age 25-45) to save you a click: Seattle: 1.5 San Francisco: 1.2 New York: 1.0 Chicago: 1.0 -------- How those statistics correspond to anecdotal stories: "First off, to say that this is not an apple to big apple comparison is an understatement - it's comparing an apple to a bus…
Thank you for bringing something, even if quora.
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As a male man chap fellow, I have no clue what "masculinity" means, and I have essentially no interest in trying to define it. We're just individuals. Try to be the best kind of individual you can - learn empathy, show interest in others and help them. Maybe you'll meet someone to partner with, maybe you won't, but chasing some societal ideal of "masculinity" is almost certainly not the best way to be the best versio…
Are you bisexual? If not you are attracted to femininity or masculinity. I guess you are attracted to femininity so you don't recognize that masculinity can also be attractive. Women tend to dream of a masculine man with feminine interests, same as men dream of feminine women with masculine interests. If you think that is a contradictory statement, no it isn't, pop culture is full of them. Angelina Jolie in Transform…
Did Megan Fox change her name to Angelina Jolie recently?
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I think computer games and porn addictions by large exacerbate the social awkwardness epidemic, and allow an easy escape from dealing with the world. Which needs to be done, if one wants to build useful skills and become useful to the society or a prospective partner. It's too easy to stay at home alone all day jacking off and playing games. It shouldn't be like that, we are not equipped to deal with this kind of sit…
Most men don't prefer masturbating to sex. Porn and masturbation is the solution to the men's problem of women not wanting to have much sex with men. It's much better than both rape and celibacy.
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There is absolutely value in long term monogamous relationships. So much value you cannot see it from the inside. It's someone to 'show off' to, and to work for, and to- ineffectively- try to impress. And that matters far, far more than you'd think. It staves off the most brutal of existential crises.
I think this is a fallacy, the expected value of most monogamous relationships is zero or microscopic - most fail, many have negative value (abuse, homicide, mental illness), etc - so in some ways it's like playing the lottery. A tax on the romantically challenged :) Again, I say this as a proud and happy husband of 19 years!