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I'm a loser and I want to change that - now
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Re: I'm a loser and I want to change that - now
#122First, who are you accountable to? Saying "HN" is too easy. Find someone who will keep you on track with this. A close friend/significant other is a good start. Second, what's your plan? I didn't see one. You need to have some objective metric you will be accountable to. Finally, be careful what definition of success you accept. Dont pin your self-esteem on this new change. You don't want that kind of pressure. HN is…
> First, who are you accountable to? Saying "HN" is too easy. Find someone who will keep you on track with this. Actually, I already found someone. Right before posting this. It was my motivation to "come out" in the first place. > Second, what's your plan? Start building stuff. Starting tomorrow morning.
> Starting tomorrow morning.
Do you see the problem?
Re: I'm a loser and I want to change that - now
#123I have been a dreamer all my life. It took me until last year to figure this out, and only thanks to this community. Great. Dreaming is necessary but not sufficient for great accomplishments. Glad you're one of us. I hardly ever tried - and when I tried, I didn't persist. It has been my goal to start a business since ever I can remember. And yet I never really tried (until last year, which resulted in abysmal failure…
Thanks Ed! That's all I can say at the moment.
Re: I'm a loser and I want to change that - now
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Re: I'm a loser and I want to change that - now
#125Earlier quoted context omitted.
> First, who are you accountable to? Saying "HN" is too easy. Find someone who will keep you on track with this. Actually, I already found someone. Right before posting this. It was my motivation to "come out" in the first place. > Second, what's your plan? Start building stuff. Starting tomorrow morning.
> Starting tomorrow morning. Do you see the problem?
Well said. Tomorrow never comes.
Re: I'm a loser and I want to change that - now
#126> I don't have too much time left. My 20ies are gone. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Buckminster_Fuller#Bankruptcy_a... "By age 32, Fuller was bankrupt and jobless, living in low-income public housing in Chicago, Illinois. In 1922, Fuller's young daughter Alexandra died from complications from polio and spinal meningitis. Allegedly, he felt responsible and this caused him to drink frequently and to contemplate suicide…
You're a young man from Switzerland whose biggest problem (from what you say) is loneliness. Could be worse, don't you think?
I was tempted to say that, too, but then it occurred to me that although he's in his twenties he might have recently been told he only had $X years to live by a doctor. If that's true, I wouldn't want to suggest he should spend them with C++. :-P
Re: I'm a loser and I want to change that - now
#127> I don't have too much time left. My 20ies are gone. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Buckminster_Fuller#Bankruptcy_a... "By age 32, Fuller was bankrupt and jobless, living in low-income public housing in Chicago, Illinois. In 1922, Fuller's young daughter Alexandra died from complications from polio and spinal meningitis. Allegedly, he felt responsible and this caused him to drink frequently and to contemplate suicide…
dude.. your link was Awesome.. I'm on my early 30s and have some difficulties, as well. It gave my hope back
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Re: I'm a loser and I want to change that - now
#128Feeling like a loser/winner is counterproductive.
The first step is to understand that social labels are bullshit, and the only truth is that we are all going to die. Look up, pretend you have purpose, that's "hope". People with hope attract other people, they glow.
The second step is to understand that there is not such thing as obligations in the universe. They don't exist. There are only actions, consequences and how you feel about yourself. The only other people that matter are the ones that also care about you.
The third step is to see the narratives in society. There are entrepeneurs from all walks of life, but some get promoted because they fit the current narrative, they sell news articles (for example, the dropout hacker with the social media company).
The fourth step is formalizing your objectives. Lists. Be realistic.
The fifth step is formalizing your assets. Lists. Be realistic.
The sixth is fiding a vector. In which direction you have to push to get where you feel you need to be.
The seventh is start pushing without doubt. Don't doubt, be clinical, get "feedback" and respond.
Remember there is no "failure", only changing pathways and goals.
Re: I'm a loser and I want to change that - now
#129You sound depressed, and I think you should be talking to people about getting help. Your career will be fine no matter what you do. Please take your health seriously.
I read it as very self-reflective, but not in a bad way. His slight self-degrading humour strikes a chord with me as a soon-to-be-30-year-old who is still an utter failure (by "millionaire by 23, billionaire by 28" standards).
Those are very destructive thought patterns. If you are not already depressed you will be soon if you keep thinking like that, and depression makes achieving your goals near impossible.
Re: I'm a loser and I want to change that - now
#130You seem to view yourself and your life as a failure, as a "loser", and think you have a long-term record of failures. Such an ingrained self-image is not going to be magically changed by any advice from a web forum or self-help book. Even were you to find what you consider "success" (which is most likely merely monetary), I doubt it would really make much of an impact in the long run. Take a look at the countless lo…
What helped me was the realization that depression is only a hallucination triggered by the brain, after that realization there was nothing left to feed that depression and it deflated.