I'm sure there are people who have never watched porn that don't particularly enjoy sex either. This sounds like all other articles that generalize one anecdote to data.
Pretty sure the entire piece was anecdotal. I see no call to action indicating that he believes we need to take up some sort of communal mantle to protect our young ones. He just wonders if he blew it for himself. hehe. Blew it.
Did porn warp me forever?
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Re: Did porn warp me forever?
#92Earlier quoted context omitted.
Alain de Botton has written about it, too: "A brain originally designed to cope with nothing more tempting than an occasional glimpse of a tribesperson across the savannah is lost with what’s now on offer on the net at the click of a button: when confronted with offers to participate continuously in scenarios outstripping any that could be dreamt up by the diseased mind of the Marquis de Sade. There is nothing robust…
There are few arguments that I have more disdain for than the one that somehow because our brains (or bodies) haven't experienced something before, they aren't built to cope with it. It's not like we are, or have ever been, built for a single temperature, type of sex, kind of food, etc. Our bodies and minds are adaptable , and while we can try to logically reason about how our minds and bodies adapt to certain stimul…
Look at what the bonobos do with each other - and we're more creative.
Re: Did porn warp me forever?
#93Earlier quoted context omitted.
Alain de Botton has written about it, too: "A brain originally designed to cope with nothing more tempting than an occasional glimpse of a tribesperson across the savannah is lost with what’s now on offer on the net at the click of a button: when confronted with offers to participate continuously in scenarios outstripping any that could be dreamt up by the diseased mind of the Marquis de Sade. There is nothing robust…
There are few arguments that I have more disdain for than the one that somehow because our brains (or bodies) haven't experienced something before, they aren't built to cope with it. It's not like we are, or have ever been, built for a single temperature, type of sex, kind of food, etc. Our bodies and minds are adaptable , and while we can try to logically reason about how our minds and bodies adapt to certain stimul…
I thought so.
There were no cars, planes, or McDs in the Savannah either yet somehow we cope with those things. Personally I dont think porn comes close what the Romans were actually doing...
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#94It's one of those things that can rapidly spiral, you start needing a bigger kick to keep it interesting. The problem being it is incredibly difficult to talk about, it's something parents will start needing to discuss with their kids straight up. Porn isn't bad, it's a part of society now and has been for a long while, but it's the same way drugs aren't necessarily bad unless you start needing a bigger and bigger ki…
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#95porn — especially the porn I was watching — just had to be taboo. The author's fetish is with the anxiety of getting caught. He's making anxiety porn by watching something so extreme that it's guaranteed to offend anyone who catches him. The author has connected the anxiety of being caught with sexual desires in his head. It's actually a very common fetish.
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#96Does it make sense to teach this to children? Just like "Smoking isn't good for your health."(which I believe worked for me) you could teach "Porn isn't good for you, if you want to enjoy sex."
Is there any research that proves your claim: "Porn isn't good for you if you want to enjoy sex."? Porn has only made sex better for me.
Putting the "its not good for you" label on it also makes it immediately more interesting than it should be. Increases the guilty pleasure and so on.
The guy in the article - maybe he would have erectile problems never having watched porn too. Performance anxiety is normal.
One thing I am sure about: The cure for bad sex is lots of sex.
Re: Did porn warp me forever?
#97Does it make sense to teach this to children? Just like "Smoking isn't good for your health."(which I believe worked for me) you could teach "Porn isn't good for you, if you want to enjoy sex."
It'd make more sense to go broader and teach that due to how our brains work, all pleasure becomes diluted the more we have. Therefore, it is desirable to avoid living in unrestricted excess, be it with drugs, sex, food, or what have you. One should have control over their pleasures, not the other way around.
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#98There's a part of the paleo subculture that avoids porn as an unnatural superstimulus. See http://yourbrainonporn.com/ or http://www.reddit.com/r/nofap Anecdotally, I find their arguments compelling.
In all seriousness, there's definitely a "born-again" feeling running through both sites ("not that there's anything wrong with that!"). I don't consider porn/masturbation a moral issue, so I notice that it's often portrayed that way ("you'll go blind/to hell"...)
For people with addictive personalities, finding self-control can be an especially good thing, and refraining from sex in general certainly has a stimulant effect: it will ramp up your sex drive (for example "curing" ED... because, you know: blue balls), and it can have similar effects to extreme exercise. (Don't be surprised by the mood swings.) I don't know if I'd say that a self-imposed state of extreme sensitivity resulting from sexual sensory deprivation is any more natural or unnatural or especially useful than the other. In the short term, you may smell nicer to ladies (if you're a male) because you are giving off the right stuff. In the long term (from my own experiences) one has a tendency to act like a Neanderthal, even thinking about sex more than "usual" as a result of deprivation. I think people's leanings towards extreme "resolutions" say more about the cultural values that lead them to see just how long they can hold their breath (or not masturbate), as opposed to the effects of that restraint. Basically, I think you get these behaviors and experiments in self-control when young people can't think of any better way to get laid or stop procrastinating (compete in a world they are still new in). Sometimes people try getting an edge by edging, literally.
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#99I couldn't finish the article because I found the examples too disturbing. Just a warning for those of you who aren't very familiar with online porn. Could someone give me a summary of the article?
Re: Did porn warp me forever?
#100Does it make sense to teach this to children? Just like "Smoking isn't good for your health."(which I believe worked for me) you could teach "Porn isn't good for you, if you want to enjoy sex."
Is there any research that proves your claim: "Porn isn't good for you if you want to enjoy sex."? Porn has only made sex better for me.