This has been going on for quite some time, you can find lots of people talking about things like disappearing "third place/space"'s [0]. The trend seems to be fewer people know or interact with their neighbors, something I've been guilty of as well. We have unlimited opportunities for both entertainment and pursuing our interests. COVID also was like pouring gas on this with people isolating and some people never "reintegrated" afterwards. A general lack of community is the root issue from my perspective but how to best encourage/build that is something I struggle with.
I've seen some theorize the need for everything to be in service of growing the economy, everything needing to be turned into a side-hustle or monetized in some way is to blame. I can believe that, so often things feel like a zero-sum game and the fatigue from that is real. I can't tell you how many times I've started writing software (before or after LLMs) and found myself lost (in the very early stages) thinking about monetization or thinking about "how will this scale?", "How could I make this configurable for people who want to use this differently than I do?", etc, all _before_ there is a viable piece of software to use. Once I realize what I'm doing it's maddening. It's the "planning for how to handle 1M simultaneous users when you don't have 1".
LLMs have let me break from that thinking, design software just for my needs, which is freeing in many ways and I love what I've been able to do but also isolating. More and more I find myself wanting to fork "ideas" not code. Why would I want to try to participate in someone else's vibe/llm-assisted project instead of just making my own? I feel that pull and I also feel like it's wrong or misguided.
I have no answers here, just noting I'm seeing and experiencing this and I don't know how to stop it.
I'll end with a quote that Aaron Sorkin has written into multiple of his TV shows:
It seems to me that more and more we've come to expect less and less from each other, and I think that should change.
— Aaron Sorkin
[0] For those not familiar, my quick summary of the idea is that we normally have home and work but also a third place we go. For some that's a church or similar, for some it's community center, for other's it's some kind of community they are apart of.