We never ever told people they are losers for wanting a better life. One of the most popular candidates for the Dem ticket was Bernie Sanders. He actually wanted to cut our biggest budget line items and spend them on the things people worry about the most (healthcare, something most Americans worry about being able to afford).
Trump is a literal billionaire. How is him telling the sons of people who used to do manufacturing that they're okay any better than a Harvard educated lawyer saying he feels for them (Trump and Vance are both Ivy League educated, btw)?
I also want Americans to have a better life. I also think we spend way too much elsewhere instead of at home. A lot of Democrats think that and drive policies for that. Trump may care about that too, but you can't vote for who makes you feel good. You have to learn how to vote for who will actually improve your life. We are the rulers of America, we have to understand our economy, our government, etc. No one is going to do it for us. I'd much rather vote for someone who talks down to me and will deliver stability than a guy who hypes me up and tanks the economy