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Re: Advice to young people, the lies I tell myself

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Post by zero-sharp » Tue, Jan 09, 2024, 12:24 PM UTC

satokema wrote: post #43

zero-sharp wrote: post #2

This article has a section titled "how to get a job." The author then mentions straight away that he has never had to apply for a job in the traditional way. Following this, he questions his own success and implies that there may be factors other than merit that played a role. A few paragraphs down the author then laments people with imposter syndrome. Yup. I'm not sure how you can read this without being irritated.…

Please note, he says "he has never gotten a job by applying", not that he has never applied to jobs. My ratio isn't 100% but being referred or (in older times) called first have probably been the better experiences in my experience.

Do I respond to nitpicking with my own nitpicking? The language of the parent post implies a lack of necessity (due to having success through other means).

Well, this is fun.

Re: Advice to young people, the lies I tell myself

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Post by flappyeagle » Tue, Jan 09, 2024, 1:03 PM UTC

zero-sharp wrote: post #2

This article has a section titled "how to get a job." The author then mentions straight away that he has never had to apply for a job in the traditional way. Following this, he questions his own success and implies that there may be factors other than merit that played a role. A few paragraphs down the author then laments people with imposter syndrome. Yup. I'm not sure how you can read this without being irritated.…

I’ve also not ever applied to a job the traditional way.

The first job I got was because I went to a career fair and had a human connection with a recruiter at a company no one wanted to work at.

She was manning a booth that everyone was passing by because the company had some reputation hit in the news and I talked to her for 30 minutes. I got hired because they had a hiring quota and like 2 applicants.

Every other job I got because of my reputation at previous jobs. I’ve never applied to a job in the traditional way.

Also immigrant. Also grew up frugal AF.

Re: Advice to young people, the lies I tell myself

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Post by jxnlco » Tue, Jan 09, 2024, 2:41 PM UTC

hsrob1 wrote: post #16

This is nonsense from a child in a bubble of privilege. His family connections got him jobs, and he has the hopeful optimism of a an upper-middle class child living in a gated community and going to private school. Of course he "found luck," it's easy to come by when you have wealth and resources backing you. He's just repeating a bunch of woo woo self help books, calling other people losers for being members of real…

Hey,

I've been thinking about what you said, and I believe it has helped me gain some clarity about myself. I have written a response specifically for you, and I hope that as someone who is in touch with reality, you can sense the sincerity in my words.

https://jxnl.github.io/blog/writing/2024/01/09/self-loathing...

Re: Advice to young people, the lies I tell myself

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Post by AnimalMuppet » Tue, Jan 09, 2024, 2:50 PM UTC

sidcool wrote: post #21

I see a lot of comments here criticising the post. May be my point of view is different on this, but I liked the post. It's raw and seems honest, like an un-edited version of a stream of thoughts (the author mentions he used speech to text). The author may have been from a privileged background, but seems to have had his own struggles. I especially liked the following pieces: >>>>> 1. I believe many young people stru…

> Grief is the result of unexpressed love, and the key to avoiding grief is to love abundantly.

This little bit I'm not sure I agree with. There absolutely is a grief from unexpressed love, but that's not the only grief. There is also grief from something good that ended. "I loved this person for X years, and I expressed that love to them, and they to me, but now they're gone and I can't love them and enjoy their love any longer." There's real grief in that. It may be less bitter than the grief from unexpressed love, but it still hurts.