Nobody talks about the miracle Jesus performed by having 12 close friends at age 30+.... :)
Mister Rogers had a point – routinely greeting six neighbors maximizes wellbeing
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Re: Mister Rogers had a point – routinely greeting six neighbors maximizes wellbeing
#302This is a classic example of correlation ≠ causation; it's quite possible that people with already-high wellbeing are more inclined to greet their neighbors (as well as the opposite of people with low wellbeing not being inclined to greet their neighbors). Whether forcing yourself to greet six neighbors every day actually "maximizes wellbeing" is unsupported by the presented evidence.
That said, I wouldn't be too surprised if there was a causative relationship, especially with some of the more specific "social" and "community" wellbeing. Seems like a reasonable guess, and it'd be straightforward to test: evaluate wellbeing scores from before and after one starts making it a point to greet six neighbors per day.
Re: Mister Rogers had a point – routinely greeting six neighbors maximizes wellbeing
#303This is a classic example of correlation ≠ causation; it's quite possible that people with already-high wellbeing are more inclined to greet their neighbors (as well as the opposite of people with low wellbeing not being inclined to greet their neighbors). Whether forcing yourself to greet six neighbors every day actually "maximizes wellbeing" is unsupported by the presented evidence. That said, I wouldn't be too sur…
Not so much correlation & causation as Selection Bias.
Re: Mister Rogers had a point – routinely greeting six neighbors maximizes wellbeing
#304Earlier quoted context omitted.
> I’ve never need to rely on anyone, other than of course normal economic transactions. That's funny. You are relying on thousands of other people every day, all day long. you just don't realize it. And not all of those are economic transactions there is plenty of goodwill involved. For instance, you rely on other people not to kill you when you are driving. Every time a stranger saves your bacon when you make a mist…
Those are normal expectation of living in society. Talking you your neighbour is not. I’m sure it was decades ago in the curtain twitching world where people stayed living int he same street for decades, but not today in a highly movable world. Certainly not for me any my peers. any interactions I make are slot my own choosing, that I happen to live near someone is of no consequence. If I did park my car in a ditch t…
>decades ago in the curtain twitching world where people stayed living int he same street for decades, but not today in a highly movable world
You're simply wrong - decades ago people moved much more than they do now.
https://www.businessinsider.com/americans-are-moving-less-so...
>In 2021, 8.4% of Americans lived in a different residence than they did a year ago, per the Census Bureau's annual Current Population survey. This was not only a decline from 9.8% in 2019 and 9.3% in 2020, but the lowest "mover rate" since at least 1948 — the earliest data period measured. Back then, the mover rate was roughly 20%, and it's been on a steady decline since the 1980's.
Re: Mister Rogers had a point – routinely greeting six neighbors maximizes wellbeing
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My hair is thick, curly, and I tend to let it grow long. I've found that, more often than not: - 90% of male barbers are butchers - clippers are for butchers - anyone who tries to cut your hair without washing it first is probably a butcher
I'm sorry you don't like your hair cuts, but clippers, like scissors, are just a tool. IMO thick or curly hair is always best cut dry and washed after. The hair changes way too much when wet to get a realistic idea of what it will look like when done if you wash it first. If time and patience were infinite, sure, maybe, wash and treat curly hair first, but it has to then be fully dry and it has to dry slowly without…
For short hair or for someone who wants it styled, I'd agree that curly hair should be dry when cut.
I'm not PP but I'm a dude with long, curly hair and I just want an even trim, so it's much better if my hair is wet.
(Also, shampoo is harder on curly hair than straight hair; "wash" curly hair with water every day and use some conditioner, and only use shampoo if it feels dirty. That may only be once week or two, maybe once a month if the hair is short. Yes, really.)
Re: Mister Rogers had a point – routinely greeting six neighbors maximizes wellbeing
#306Earlier quoted context omitted.
What I learned is that it makes a huge difference to get a haircut from someone professional. Going to some cheap random mall hair place is a terrible experience. They don't care about their work, it's going to be awkward and it'll look terrible. I have been going to a fancy hair place in recent years. AUD $85 seems like a lot of money for a mens haircut, but it makes all the difference. It's a proper craft. No "what…
My hair is thick, curly, and I tend to let it grow long. I've found that, more often than not: - 90% of male barbers are butchers - clippers are for butchers - anyone who tries to cut your hair without washing it first is probably a butcher
Have you checked out barbers in the Black parts of your town? African hair is very curly and though most men don't keep it long, it's common enough and many barbers know how to handle it.
If you're just looking for an even trim, then almost anyone should be able to do it. (And I usually clean my hair right before I go in.)
Re: Mister Rogers had a point – routinely greeting six neighbors maximizes wellbeing
#307Mr. Rogers was my actual neighbor in Pittsburgh in 1999-2000, while I was at CMU. He would really go out of his way to have social interactions. He would always say hello and ask how you were doing in a way that felt like he actually genuinely wanted to know the answer. Case of the person in real life being exactly like what he seems like on TV.
Me too! I lived in Squirrel Hill and would see him doing things like going into the stationary store with one of his grandchildren to buy a card. Seeing him around was always magical.
Re: Mister Rogers had a point – routinely greeting six neighbors maximizes wellbeing
#308Italians are said to have 'passeggiata'; daily strolls along the main street or town square to meet and greet neighbors [0]. Might not work as-is in the US due to the lack of town squares and the abundance of stroads.
[0] https://www.myitaliandiaries.com/italian-passeggiata-what-ex...
Re: Mister Rogers had a point – routinely greeting six neighbors maximizes wellbeing
#309We got a small, older dog a couple years ago, mostly for my wife. She has health issues and can't walk the dog, so it fell on me. At first I was kind of resentful. The dog is ponderous and doesn't really take direction much, and I'm way too short on free time. Well, I've lived in the neighborhood for ten years and only when I started walking the dog did I start meeting a bunch of people in the neighborhood. I still w…
Smokers talk about having a similar social effect occur when chatting during a smoke break. It's one of the reasons smoking is hard to quit for some, especially in highly populated areas.
Definitely.
I used to smoke.
It was the easiest way to merge into a group of people. Walk up, ask for a lighter. You are now part of the circle.
Re: Mister Rogers had a point – routinely greeting six neighbors maximizes wellbeing
#310Earlier quoted context omitted.
Hell is other people. Since we're apparently doing borderline thought-terminating cliches.
HN is a social community too. So are other online forums, discord chat groups, mailing lists, gaming communities, open source communities, etc. People are driven to social interaction, whether virtual or in-person. I don't know what is the big deal in acknowledging that.
That may be technically true, but is really just an implementation detail. If HN quietly replaced all the accounts with suitably capable LLM bots, it wouldn't make any difference. What this type of service really has on offer is solitary activity: Writing for one's own enjoyment, differing from a private journal only in that the software here provides some colour back to spark additional thoughts in order avoid writer's block.
I'm not sure the same is true in 'real' communities.