People who die by suicide want to stop suffering, not to stop living

That actually happens. There are just not enough statistics about that because nobody cares.

I remember a documentary about a part in China with a very high suicide rate - mostly because people couldn't find a job. Another example would be the Irish Travellers - a community which has it hard to find a job and has a way higher suicide rate than the rest of the UK.

- Irreversible or hard to reverse brain damage/dysfunction. It doesn't matter if the cause is traumatic experiences, innate conditions or substance abuse, effects are equally hard to remedy

- Irreversible or hard to reverse physical health problems

- Low social capital at late stage in life. If someone wants to have loving friends and family at 50 starting from being lonely and estranged, are they really going to have same results as someone who has been building these up from childhood?

- Financial constraints and difficulty of learning new marketable skills in adulthood

- Clash between reality of surrounding society and expectations that are a deeply ingrained part of one's character

The solutions proposed seem to be drugs (either sanctioned ones like SSRIs or increasingly street ones like ecstasy and mushrooms) and talk therapy premised on one having a Freudian complex in one's head rather than experiencing genuine hardship. I am not saying any of these are totally useless. Even having a few drinks gives one a holiday from endless gloom and can spur one to form social connections or reach conclusions that are still meaningful while sober. But on the whole, I am not sold on treating people like houseplants who are considered diseased if not perfectly happy just sitting around with basic needs provided for. I would rather see more effort to improve human lives in more fundamental ways. And, as a last resort, acceptance that for some it was really not worth it at the end rather than labeling them insane to assuage our own discomfort and avoid questions of our own responsibilities

Sharp migraines, anxiety attacks (as per doctors), rapid heartbeats, disturbed sleep, bodyache, random mood swings etc.

Her MRI is clean too. Doctors just started her with blood thinners which might be alleviating some pain but no, she is not feeling good at all. Had done multiple tests, visited bunch of doctors but still yet to figure what's exactly wrong with her body?

This whole story sounds insane (assuming you're not leaving out essential details), with multiple overlapping failures. I am not a medical professional, so take this all with a grain of salt (no pun intended).

First off, idiopathic hyponatremia in non-elderly, non-pregnant, otherwise healthy people is unusual - why was your wife hyponatremic to begin with? This is worth investigating.

It's amazing to me that it took weeks for you to be told about the risks involved in raising sodium too quickly.

It's ludicrous that a doctor would prescribe daily Ativan for treatment of generalized anxiety in 2023 (Ativan and related benzodiazepine drugs are extremely habit forming, wreck your memory, and don't show evidence of improving anxiety endpoints in the long term. Great for infrequent occasional use, e.g. panic attacks though).

It's even more ludicrous that they would want her to quit cold-turkey if she's been taking Ativan daily for longer than a few weeks. Benzodiazepine withdrawal is unpleasant and dangerous. That said, not being on daily Ativan for anxiety is a good thing. If you want to read up on withdrawing from benzos safely, the Ashton Manual is a popular (although older) source a lot of medical and recreational users have used to get clean[1].

As for the psychological aspects of this ordeal: The only way out is through - you just have to keep going and keep advocating for yourselves. If you haven't already, I highly recommend getting set up with regular therapy for both of yourselves. Falling down happens to us all- getting back up is an difficult but essential part of life, and having a third party there to remind you of your forward progress and push/encourage you when you need it is very valuable.

[1] https://www.benzoinfo.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/07/Ashton-...