> They often “get it wrong” and the individual will later feel they are the wrong gender WITHOUT necessarily knowing they were intersex at birth.
You see a similar phenomenon with trans people too. By a huge margin trans people know they're the wrong gender at age 5-6 well before they have any idea what boys vs girls even means. And it can't be they go with whatever people say they are because otherwise they wouldn't reject it. It's not something socialized. The expression is cultural -- boys have short hair, girls wear makeup, but the identity is fixed.
It's not really all that surprising in hindsight but humans seem to have an internal sense of their gender that's independent of their chromosomes. I mean if you swapped my body or did some weird gene therapy I would still know I'm a woman.
Trans folks seem to just be people for whom the firmware doesn't match the hardware. It's not even up there with the weirdest human things and now that we don't stigmatize it as much we're seeing that it happens wayyy more often than we thought it did.