I have been remote for 11 years now and have two children 9 and 12. I can't imagine what it would have been like if I had spent the week out commuting between the hours of 7am to 7pm, we would have lost out on so much bonding time with their daddy being an integral part of their life. I managed to be highly productive, build a career, yet be there for bath times, tucking into bed, school plays / sports days, nursing…
I've been remote for 4 years with a 4 and 2 year old and....same. Generally more productive work-wise and can't imagine going back to commuting 30-40m each way as I did previously (which isn't even a "bad" commute). And the additional time with the family is irreplaceable. My company's local office is open, and I do go in 2-3 times a month for various reasons (which I also enjoy as a change of pace). But every time I…
Early Remote Work Impacts on Family Formation
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Re: Early Remote Work Impacts on Family Formation
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You got me curious about the stats. For one way commute time the mean is 27.6 minutes, and only 22% spend more than 30 minutes. I'd be more interested in median commute time though. https://www.zippia.com/advice/average-commute-time-statistic... Edit: this has an interactive map of bad commute hotspots! https://www.ridester.com/average-us-commute/
27.6 minutes sounds absurdly low to me. Getting ready at home, getting in the car, parking it at the destination, and finally walking to my desk takes at least 10 minutes for me. Discounting the overhead doesn't make sense.
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Indeed. We have a 5 month old and a 4 year old, and my wife broke her leg with a compound spiral fracture two months ago then subsequently developed vertigo and hearing loss from unexplainable inner ear damage. I can't say preschool has helped us out much, either. After the whole family became violently ill from a preschool norovirus, I've now been plagued with an upper respiratory infection going on 20 days or so. I…
This sounds more like a problem of your country culture of not encouraging to take sick days. I would have been on sick leave for all the time needed to not have sleeping problems anymore
The noro/rota/adeno/entero viruses are terrible, they tear through the whole class and family leaving a trail of vomit and diarrhea…and usually hit once or twice per year. Majority are just corona/rhino/influenza which are not as bad since they just usually just cause congestion and the kids can play through it.
I notice that my daughter stopped getting sick between 3 and 4 though, so I guess that is how long it takes to build up immunity to most.
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Not having to take care of a home sounds great. I can't imagine the Sisyphean task of mowing a lawn every weekend. At least raking leaves can be a peaceful thing - lour mowers can't be peaceful!
fwiw I'd take lawn mowing over most kitchen cleaning, bathroom cleaning and dusting are worse too but are much less frequent. Vacuuming might be slightly worse as well because I don't have to empty a lawn mower bag unless I chose to put it on. At least you get a guaranteed 3+ month vacation from yard work.
For instance, I can vacuum and mop my whole 3k sq ft house in a solid hour or so (including the stairs). Do that 2-3 times a month with spot vac in between and the entire place is always super clean and I barely spend any time. It doesn't even kill an afternoon.
In fact, I'd take it over my precious 800 sq ft city apartment. That place got way dirtier way faster due to size and location. And a full mop and vac of it would still take a solid 30-45 min (there are fixed costs involved). And it would need it weekly due to aforementioned proneness to dust and dirt.
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Now imagine if you had been able to have it all, the only cost being management not being able to see your bag of mostly carbon water physically respirate. I love having a house and yard, and never having to pollute the environment to shift my bag of carbon water to do the same work worse somewhere less adapted to my being. There will come a time when passions die about RTO and companies stop paying for real estate s…
> Then children will have their parents again. In most developed countries, parents already spend more time with their kids than at any point in the past fifty years: https://ourworldindata.org/parents-time-with-kids (What they've sacrificed, at least in the US, seems to largely be non-work social connections and group participation.)
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Add someone navigating this after an overly productive decade of remote work, but not one that is healthy or sustainable to be well rounded to access the next level of growth in all fronts, I’m beginning to wonder if having a separate space on the property might be something to try out. Those pre made work pods look more and more interesting.
A lot of them were surprisingly expensive, I really hope someone like Home Depot comes out with something really cheap like their sheds but with some cheap interior
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#207This proves remote work is quality software engineering methodology. It results in higher quality, more throughput, and increased investment in Family. I approve. This means any org or management layer that enforce hybrid or in-office on the people who move code, system design, abstractions, product knowledge work, ux work...are contra Family. Those orgs need to collapse and those managers should be fired. This will…
Re: Early Remote Work Impacts on Family Formation
#208This proves remote work is quality software engineering methodology. It results in higher quality, more throughput, and increased investment in Family. I approve. This means any org or management layer that enforce hybrid or in-office on the people who move code, system design, abstractions, product knowledge work, ux work...are contra Family. Those orgs need to collapse and those managers should be fired. This will…
how is agile "mind control" or "mind enslavement" ? care to elaborate?
when someone non-technical is a scrum master, run for the hills or perform as a 10x engineer until you can automate that person's functions enough that they no longer need to show up at your meetings and just become metrics-readers and team-hype-people for representing your team and not for caring too much about anything that isn't automated metrics and team health surveys from which meaningful ventures forward could be established such as perks and more attention to extracurricular needs if there are any.
ayyyy Corporate family??? gotta take care of everyone more and get outta the way baby, we're moving code here and you're not!
but yeah, 10000000% respect for hardcore startup engineering mentality where agile actually really does mean agile, and it means lean remote agile these days where it's asynchronous comms and as little live meeting bullshit as possible. Learn how to read and write or don't call it agile. be asynchronous or you're not agile enough for me.
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I've been remote for 4 years with a 4 and 2 year old and....same. Generally more productive work-wise and can't imagine going back to commuting 30-40m each way as I did previously (which isn't even a "bad" commute). And the additional time with the family is irreplaceable. My company's local office is open, and I do go in 2-3 times a month for various reasons (which I also enjoy as a change of pace). But every time I…
Judging by rush hour traffic, tech is something of a bubble. As far as I can tell, commuting traffic is back to pre-pandemic levels as far as I can tell.
Re: Early Remote Work Impacts on Family Formation
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Judging by rush hour traffic, tech is something of a bubble. As far as I can tell, commuting traffic is back to pre-pandemic levels as far as I can tell.
~about half - https://www.mprnews.org/story/2023/01/10/npr-traffic-congest...
(As the article notes, Boston has some of the worst congestion.)