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Most young men are single. Most young women are not

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Re: Most young men are single. Most young women are not

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Post by acheron »

GalenErso wrote: post #11

A man who is financially autonomous, practices basic hygiene and grooming, wears tasteful clothing, and approaches women with respect and manners has nothing to worry about. You don't need to make 6 figures, to be 6 feet tall, to have the body of The Rock or 2004 Brad Pitt's face. Having one interesting hobby is also a huge plus, even if it's as simple as hiking or jogging. You just need to be minimally interesting.…

Not really true, as the actual studies show if you read beyond the headline.

And dumb "life/advice" subreddits are all "creative writing" at best, and just straight trolling/karma farming more often. Nothing posted there is true. Taking reddit as evidence for anything is a terrible idea.

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Post by medvezhenok »

4gotunameagain wrote: post #17

Boys addicted to computer games and porn, girls addicted to social media which allow and facilitate sexism (only one way), an increasingly bleak future, economic and geopolitical uncertainty, "intelligence" organisations running rampant trying to control citizen's minds.. Yeah I wonder why our societies are going down the shitter.

Reversion to the mean...

"Once upon a time, 4,000 to 8,000 years after humanity invented agriculture, something very strange happened to human reproduction. Across the globe, for every 17 women who were reproducing, passing on genes that are still around today—only one man did the same."

https://psmag.com/environment/17-to-1-reproductive-success

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Post by xlii »

qikInNdOutReply wrote: post #116
xlii wrote: post #88

I have a theory for that: I think that men are simply lost in modern times. Love, for example, has been popularized to be a romantic movie-cliché where handsome guy spends his daytime on a picnic during middle of the day (middle of the week). In contract my bubble - all men I know show affection through dedication and work, which isn't perceived as very romantic. Men are less social. There are reasons, but life right…

>So it's somewhat bleak future, but not grim nor unchangeable. It's just (some) men got behind and it'd be nice if there'd be help for them to catch up. So civil war buddies? We could share a trench, you will be the sniper, i will be the spotter?

I'm unfortunately on the luckier side of frontlines, so not going to risk it, bu I'm totally open to a BBQ ;)

Re: Most young men are single. Most young women are not

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Post by thowaway47437 »

Throwaway account due to sensitive personal stories.

Me and my 4 close friends are reasonably successful in terms of societal standards; we all hit the gym religiously, earn over 100K in a big European city, speak multiple languages and we are all in our early to mid 30s. Dating wise, we each have our funnel of dates from dating apps, nights out where we collect numbers and one night stands. We regularly get around 20 new leeds (numbers) a week, which transform into 5 dates and in turn, 2 or 3 new one night stands. On average, every week adds one more friend with benefits to our "rooster". I place on the bottom of my friends ranking because I am very pick and prefer to date no more than 5 girls (ages 20 to 25 tops) at the same time. The friend that's most dedicated keeps a harem of 20-25 friends with benefits... He tends to service them every other week or so, sometimes double or even triple booking them on the same day. As you can imagine, this takes the same effort as a second job, keeping up with all the new dates and maintaining casual relationships. As you can imagine, my friend is in top 0.1% of guys in terms of dating success, with over 100 new sexual partners every year. I've asked girls their opinion of him and they all report that he's the kind of guy who just gets it, he's a gentleman, funny, charismatic, considerate and sexy. They seem oblivious to the fact that his skills are acquired from experience and not from mother nature. All of these girls don't mind that he's seeing other girls, they are in it for the same reason: casual fun.

All in all, we 5 men are dating around 50 girls and some are exclusive on their end, knowing the details of our lifestyle. As everything in society gets more and more polarized there's more lonely men and consequently more Dan Bulzarians running around. I find the statistics even a bit tame, the average guy is so afraid of rejection that he does 5 approaches a year. My friends do 5 approaches in an hour going to a bar.

Young girls live in a different reality than young guys. My advice is to not bother with dating until you reach certain status in life, earn good money, have good physique, have friends in high places and most importantly, provide fun. On the flip side, once you'll be at the top of the mountain you'll never want to find a good wife and settle down, mostly because a) there are almost no good girls in westernized society, b) why have 1 when you can have 10?

Re: Most young men are single. Most young women are not

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Post by Ozzie_osman »

SteveDR wrote: post #118
Ozzie_osman wrote: post #110

We have a loneliness epidemic and we have just invented language models that are exceedingly good at acting like humans and even mimic emotions and personality (and even when we do our best to try and prevent them from showing emotion, it still bleeds through). I've tried Replika and some of these other AI friends (who are more and more pivoting to being AI girlfriends), and they seem so far from state of the art. My…

Replika is aimed at friendship and romance, it’s in all the marketing. I’m sure you saw the fiasco when they suddenly decided to filter romantic talk last week? https://www.vice.com/en/article/y3py9j/ai-companion-replika-...

I did not! The last time I checked (a month or two ago) it had gotten very focused on the sex piece: https://m.slashdot.org/story/409472

Looks like they might be swinging the pendulum back the other way again.

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Post by polotics »

russianGuy83829 wrote: post #46
oj2828 wrote: post #41

“Nearly half of all young adults are single: 34 percent of women, and a whopping 63 percent of men.” If the population is roughly 50/50 how does that add up? Are there lots of men in two relationships at once? Or are younger women primarily dating older men?

> Or are younger women primarily dating older men? yes and each other

...and are unknowingly sharing some studs.

Re: Most young men are single. Most young women are not

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Post by danielrpa »

I grew up in Latin America but now I'm married to an American woman and thus out of the "pool". I hang out with coworkers still in their 20s and I'm blown away by how their teens and 20s differed from mine. When I was single, all my friends and I could think about was how to find the next date or sexual partner. We were all very active, and I personally had over a dozen "serious" girlfriends (3+ months) and another couple dozen kissing flings/sexual partners, roughly 50/50 between Latin America and the US. I actually can't easily remember all the women I've been with, certainly not all of their names and in fact I'm pretty mediocre in terms of "achievement" among my friends, the best of them having had 50-100 sexual partners in their lives.

Most of my younger American coworkers get to their 20s barely having kissed a couple of girls in their lives, the difference is astonishing. Have in mind I'm not particularly attractive, tall or fit, I have an average build and I'd say I disappear in the crowd but I know how to communicate with a woman and respectfully "court" them, even if it's for a one night stand. This is skill learned in my teens through trial and a LOT of error. I can't explain, maybe today our sanitized and risk-averse schools repress men's learning of the "courtship language".

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Post by fbernier »

goethes_kind wrote: post #109
fbernier wrote: post #82

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Exactly this. I've been single for four months at 27 and dated a lot during that time and I noticed that the bar is set _so low_ to place yourself as a better candidate than, let's say 80% of other men, that's it's simply scary. Most men have literally nothing interesting to offer for a relationship. When you look at their situation from an objective point of view it's so obvious why they remain single and yet most a…

Most men who have problems in this area are not going on dates. They are not even meeting women. I do not think it has much to do with hobbies.

It's still an issue. When online dating, one of the main thing you get from a person's profile is "what are their interests?". Even if it's not explicitly written down, people try to infer based on the pictures.

Oh, a picture him riding an ATV with the boys. Ah, here's one of him fishing with the boys. There he is, happily posing with a normally dangerous but sedated wild animal. Hmm.

You get the idea.

Re: Most young men are single. Most young women are not

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Post by llampx »

danielrpa wrote: post #127

I grew up in Latin America but now I'm married to an American woman and thus out of the "pool". I hang out with coworkers still in their 20s and I'm blown away by how their teens and 20s differed from mine. When I was single, all my friends and I could think about was how to find the next date or sexual partner. We were all very active, and I personally had over a dozen "serious" girlfriends (3+ months) and another c…

Culture matters. You can have the most "game" but if you grow up in Saudi Arabia or India you will almost certainly have a lower "count" than someone with no game who grew up in Brazil.
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