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Honestly the best thing I think anyone can do in your position is to:
- Work on improving yourself everyday.
- Read about new ways to do just that.
- Find your purpose along the way.
Here's a few blogs I've written that may help you:
https://jondouglas.dev/thoughts-on-struggling-through-finish...
Adderall is also a massive bonus to my well being and ability to do work, but it's not sustainable for me. I have to up the dose every couple months until I'm at the max dose, and at that point my heart feels like it's going to explode every day. And then quitting adderall is awful and takes forever to not feel super tired 24 7 (like half a year).
Ever since I turned 30, my approach to productivity has been this: If I find myself having trouble to encourage myself to do something, it's probably not actually that important to me. So I don't do it. I still keep the house clean, force myself to exercise, and other basic things. But I don't beat myself up over doing nothing, by not studying for some theoretical promotion it may bring me, or drinking or doing drugs (but no in excess). I accept that I will have passing interests in hobbies and then drop them after a month or so. I don't beat myself up over it - it was fun to try. Then I move on to whatever else I feel compelled to do, which often times is nothing.
https://jawwad.me/book-summary-designing-your-life-by-dave-e... Honestly the best thing I think anyone can do in your position is to: - Work on improving yourself everyday. - Read about new ways to do just that. - Find your purpose along the way. Here's a few blogs I've written that may help you: https://jondouglas.dev/thoughts-on-struggling-through-finish... https://jondouglas.dev/how-i-stop-myself-from-giving-up/ h…
-Be happy with who you are and where you're at
-Read things that give you pleasure
-Accept that there's no purpose, and just enjoy the time you have
:)
I left a large tech company with the dream of building a startup. I failed and am back doing consulting work and figuring out my next step. After realizing I'd failed, I fell in a deep rut. You can get out of it. Small steps is what worked for me. Just one win every day, or a working piece of code, or an admin task I'd been putting off before. It rebuilds your confidence that you can achieve things, and each little t…
Same. A verrrrry deep rut.
Taking a complex job in big tech again let me flex my only partially atrophied dev muscles back to full strength. The narrow focus (entrepreneurship is sooo ambigious) and steady stream of hard work let me rebuild my confidence.
Not completely out of the rut, but after struggling for months post-failure, I would still be in that rut (or worse) if not for a steady job. Religion might have helped too, but I'm not the type unfortunately.
What worked well for me was pretty simple: If I got too chuffed with what I completed, I'd meditate for 5-10 mins to ground myself, then look for the next task. If I got really distracted and found myself unable to keep my attention, meditation also helped with that. To keep things on-track, I recommend a meditation app or guided meditations on youtube so you aren't relying on your own burnt-out self-discipline.
So your solution is meditation? Could you elaborate. When you are finding yourself struggling to keep attention? What do you do? Meditate and then return to the task?
https://jawwad.me/book-summary-designing-your-life-by-dave-e... Honestly the best thing I think anyone can do in your position is to: - Work on improving yourself everyday. - Read about new ways to do just that. - Find your purpose along the way. Here's a few blogs I've written that may help you: https://jondouglas.dev/thoughts-on-struggling-through-finish... https://jondouglas.dev/how-i-stop-myself-from-giving-up/ h…
Alternatively: -Be happy with who you are and where you're at -Read things that give you pleasure -Accept that there's no purpose, and just enjoy the time you have :)
I definitely agree it's an end state for those like you who have reached it.
(speaking on my behalf as it took me many years to get to a similar point)
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I agree, at least in spirit. I exercise 2 hours per day, 5 times a week, and eat healthy food: vegetables, protein, no snacks, low sugar, low salt, no ketchup, no mustard, no mayonnaise, no oil for cooking, basically anything doctors recommend, I do it, and I have been doing it for the last 5 years or so. Does it help? Probably. Do I still feel constant dread? Yes, every single day, but I learned to live with that fe…
Please add animal fats or olive oil to your diet. The modern processed oils are bad. Animal based fats or olive, coconut and other traditional oils are better. Avoid palm, corn, vegetable oil. Also salt is healthy. Check out the channel what I've learned on youtube.
Exercise, drop the drugs, ensure you have some part of your identity unrelated to work. I was in a rut for years because my work was my identity and I wasn’t where I wanted to be (thank you effective altruism for the identity crisis lol). When I moved out to California I quit drinking (for a while, quit again more recently), focused on exercising, and set a goal of not seeing my whole identity as a software developer…
I agree, at least in spirit. I exercise 2 hours per day, 5 times a week, and eat healthy food: vegetables, protein, no snacks, low sugar, low salt, no ketchup, no mustard, no mayonnaise, no oil for cooking, basically anything doctors recommend, I do it, and I have been doing it for the last 5 years or so. Does it help? Probably. Do I still feel constant dread? Yes, every single day, but I learned to live with that fe…
> All I really look forward to these days is getting high and playing video games or watching Seinfeld reruns each weekend Not saying it's the only cause of your problems, but you shouldn't underestimate the affect that getting high can have on how you feel when you're not high (especially if it's an every day or most days thing). Consider a (say 3-6 month) detox.
I really recommend everyone to listen to Andrew Huberman's podcast [0] on Dopamine and how it affects motivation, focus, and satisfaction. Many people see Dopamine as just a pleasure chemical, but it actually directly influences motivation and focus. We also all have a somewhat set amount of dopamine in a day, so participating in activities that release a short peak of dopamine (drugs, masturbation, etc) means that w…
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Please add animal fats or olive oil to your diet. The modern processed oils are bad. Animal based fats or olive, coconut and other traditional oils are better. Avoid palm, corn, vegetable oil. Also salt is healthy. Check out the channel what I've learned on youtube.
All oils and added fats are bad for people with heart problems or those at risk of them.