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> All I really look forward to these days is getting high and playing video games or watching Seinfeld reruns each weekend Not saying it's the only cause of your problems, but you shouldn't underestimate the affect that getting high can have on how you feel when you're not high (especially if it's an every day or most days thing). Consider a (say 3-6 month) detox.
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Nothing wrong with working on video games. I've spent 5 years working on them. Maybe the gameplay is not longer interesting to you. Try to find another one. You've already given it a pause, maybe you might find it interesting again.
Definitely relevant but likely more a by product of your unhappiness. If you're being tasked to do things that aren't interesting you'll have every incentive to not pay attention.
As some one with severe ADHD I strongly recommend a high fat + high protein breakfast and limit the caffeine. For high fat I usually take fish oil. For high protein I usually eat eggs with cheese and grain bread. Also, no coffee after 11AM as it has a pretty long half life.
Get into a good sleep schedule, also. Sleep more then you need. Try to wake up at the same time every day.
Last bit: ADHD isn't a curse, it can be a blessing - you just need to manifest it right.
weed, adhd meds, you are scrambling and desensitizing the already compromised executive function center of your brain. you essentially need to do a dopamine detox and start back from ground zero. for weaning yourself off THC my strategy is to buy high-end CBD flower (online mail order in the US) and then taper my usage. At this point I am consuming about 1g of CBD flower every morning and loving it. Some vendors I li…
My most recent successful quitting cold turkey was the result of a mis-dose of RSO oil. I took way too much and blasted off to the cosmos. I realized the only way out of the “trip” was to work on what I needed to change about my habits. During my session I made a list of changes I wanted to make in life and decided (or rather was told by the universe) that I needed a break from weed and everything else could wait. I woke up the next day and threw everything out related to mj use with the exception of a 10 mg edible in case I had any sort of withdrawal. After a couple days with no withdrawal symptoms I threw that out.
A month in and I can say there is SO much to look forward to after cutting out weed. The dreams alone are worth it. I had a single dream last week that seemed like a gift from the universe. It’s too subjective to share but it altered the way I react to and perceive any anxiety-inducing stimuli.
I still have so much to work on but it all seems manageable after this one win.
TLDR; Try to focus on one single thing you want/need to change the most and don’t let anything else overwhelm you. You need a win right now. The rest can wait.
Exercise, drop the drugs, ensure you have some part of your identity unrelated to work. I was in a rut for years because my work was my identity and I wasn’t where I wanted to be (thank you effective altruism for the identity crisis lol). When I moved out to California I quit drinking (for a while, quit again more recently), focused on exercising, and set a goal of not seeing my whole identity as a software developer…
Taking care of your health and general well-being is a basic activity at some point and may not give you the necessary emotional boost to escape your own hand carved rut. The real issue is that you need to do something that makes you proud of yourself. That's what "exercise and get off drugs" advice is really trying to say, but it's never a one size fits all like everyone makes it seem.
People can gather their sense of pride from a lot of things: from helping others, to cleaning their room, to climbing Mount Everest. Maybe they feel pride from cooking a perfect lasagna or by praying every night. OP should do some soul searching and figure out why he isn't proud of himself and... make the necessary corrections.
EDIT: Apologies EddySchauHai! I mean to agree with you but also acknowledge that different things scratch that invisible itch for different people, and at different times in their lives.
> Also, I have ADHD. This is probably relevant, but I haven't quite figured out how. Yeah, ditto but having been through these ruts many times in the past I can offer some advice ADHD makes you incapable of settling into easy You have work to do but it's easy. You have a side project but you've figured out the hard parts and so it's just the implementation grind, which is easy. Find a challenge switch your side proje…
> You have a side project but you've figured out the hard parts and so it's just the implementation grind, which is easy. I found a stupid mind trick for that. If I can't do it, then it isn't easy. I kind of found a satisfaction now in doing boring stuff, feels a bit like a super power. I find it useful at work as well - if there are very boring tasks to do I take them. Team loves me for that and these usually are so…
Since you can't finish easy tasks, that becomes the challenge, therefore you make yourself finish it and it becomes interesting again because suddenly what was 'easy' in your mind you made yourself realise that it only counts if you finish it and you usually don't so the challenge is to be someone that finishes that stuff?