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This whole comment is, I hope somewhat in jest and pretty misogynistic. You assume that I sleep around (which is not true). You also imply that a woman having lots of sex is a bad thing. If a woman wants to be sexually active, I do not judge her for that any more than I would judge a man who wants to be sexual with many women. Even though I am well-educated and run my own company, you assume that I would not post thi…
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But do you know how many tried and failed? The chance of failure at 40 is definitely higher than 30 (unless you froze eggs when younger). > The percentage of IVF cycle starts that resulted in live births was 41.5% in women younger than 35 years, 31.9% in women aged 35–37 years, 22.1% in women aged 38–40 years, 12.4% in women aged 41–42 years, 5% in women aged 43–44 years, and 1 % for women older than 44 years. In con…
This is one of the statistical realities I really wish society was more open about. It would really help women make proper informed decisions.
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This whole comment is, I hope somewhat in jest and pretty misogynistic. You assume that I sleep around (which is not true). You also imply that a woman having lots of sex is a bad thing. If a woman wants to be sexually active, I do not judge her for that any more than I would judge a man who wants to be sexual with many women. Even though I am well-educated and run my own company, you assume that I would not post thi…
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Socializing beats dating apps! 1. Do things you like 2. Where would the guy you want to date go to socialize?
Good question! I think the guy I'd love would be a generous nerd, who is more handsome than he realizes. So maybe I'd go to hackathons or volunteer at soup kitchens. What do you think?
I've met some really interesting people at maker spaces. Never dated anyone there.
I always thought habitat for humanity would be cool/useful/fun/have interesting people, but they don't do it around here.
I haven't been, but you might try https://austinswingsyndicate.org/
I always make better friends when I'd go places regularly. When I was younger, I'd hop around to a new place frequently. I didn't build lasting friendships this way. Find something you'd like to do for a while.
Volunteering to help out at events can lead to meeting more people.
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Lol relationships shouldn't be looked at as "achievements" or something to put on a resume or require "work"/labor, at least good relationships. Going that route is gonna lead to many things lacking. I mean go ahead with your plan, but if that's been your "strategy" for however long and you're still single and without the trophy kids, you're "strategy" is severely flawed and obviously not working.
I certainly don't see a relationship or kids as an achievement or something to put on my resumé. Anyone who knows me knows how deeply I love my friends and want to share that love with an intimate partner. Anyone who knows me knows how much I care for children and would love to have my own to love. Why does this translate as an achievement for a resumé rather than a heart longing?
Just imagine that wording being on a dating profile. Yeah, you'd get some responses and sure, maybe it works out, but upon reading that I'd put money down and bet that it'd scare away a huge number of potential winners (min 30% compared to better wording). It's because it sounds too robotic, calculated, blueprint-like, and signals up-tight, controlling, another job to work at after coming home from their day job. The opposite is needed.
Guys get scared off when they hear things like that. It has nothing to do with a strong and empowered woman. It's got everything to do with affecting their freedom to be themselves, hang with their boys, and just not feel like they'd be put on a leash and treated like a prop. Guys, typically speaking, just want to be bros with whoever, regardless of gender, and just chill and not worry about being constrained.
Do what you want, but at least don't go by the advice you want to hear here. Go by what you need to hear here.
In my experience, stop looking and it'll find you. I met my wife on the beach, basically randomly. Neither of us wanted a relationship at the time, we just enjoyed talking to each other so much. Our "first date" was to a hiking meetup, where we ditched everyone and broke into a park after-hours, explored shit, and at some point, kissed, while hiding from the park rangers. But seriously, just stop looking.
I get the point, but maybe that looking desperate puts people off, so being more relaxed could help. I recall being dismay that when single no one showed interest, while in a relationship women seems to ask me out (still rarely, but not 0)... Long story short I think the message is don't be too intense, but be honest you're looking for a relationship and not a hookup.
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I get the point, but maybe that looking desperate puts people off, so being more relaxed could help. I recall being dismay that when single no one showed interest, while in a relationship women seems to ask me out (still rarely, but not 0)... Long story short I think the message is don't be too intense, but be honest you're looking for a relationship and not a hookup.
Haha, that’s another bit of advice: put a wedding ring on. I would hardly ever get hit on until I put my wedding ring on. Then it was like they came out of the woodwork every weekend I went out. No idea if any of those would ever manifest an actual relationship, but could be worth trying.
Personally speaking, formal dating never worked for me. It was always too much like a job interview, where both parties were looking for reasons to say “no”. The only meaningful relationships I’ve had so far in life were with women I met as friends in school or on one-night stands I didn’t want to end. I think in both cases this was because the fundamental dynamic was looking for reasons to say “yes”. If interviewing…
English is not my native language. But I have some advice for you to learn from the best (not from me): There is 99.99% of everyone comments in this thread who can't give you the best advice - because everyone is not enlightened. You should try to learn/understand Buddha. He is a real person, he left the throne and didn't live a family life. Try to find basic Buddhist books, I believe you'll be happier when you under…