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Re: The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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Post by lelandfe »

Etheryte wrote: post #24
gbog wrote: post #12

Best hug for me is no hug, thanks. I would bet 95% of the human beings never hugs except between lovers or parents and their kids. I would bet hug is very much a North American thing. I'm French and hate hugs (we kiss on the cheeks, which feels less intrusive to me, but is crasy intrusive in most non-Latin countries). I live in China and, in normal settings, people here won't hug, won't kiss and won't even shake hand…

Your experience and perspective on life is not universal and I wouldn't be so quick to generalize. I've had the luck of travelling a fair bit in my life and I would say hugging is common in many cultures, family ties or not. For context I'm not from North America.

Yep - every culture (and even family) is different. Heck, I have a close Hong Konger friend who is one of the most physically affectionate people I’ve ever met

Re: The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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Post by majkinetor »

chaoskanzlerin wrote: post #89
majkinetor wrote: post #63

I am amazed. Some scientist went to the boss to express interest in studding hugs. And it passed! :) Achievement completed I guess :)

to be fair, this one received no (external?) funding

I didn't mean anything negative. I am honestly impressed.

Re: The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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Post by tremon »

Dracophoenix wrote: post #30
mudita wrote: post #14

Slightly off-topic: I’m a professional dancer, we specifically train hugging. For contemporary dance, because it’s an important skill for a lot of partnering moves, like jumps involving two persons (an example of partnering: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T1BbxTWsoO4&t=13s ). One important detail I found interesting is that for contemporary dancers, it’s not only about the arms, but how to use the whole body for the…

I know this might be off-topic, but are you familiar with ballroom dance? If so, how does one learn to touch in a way that's not to stilted but doesn't, for lack of better phrasing, "overreach" into intimate territory?

Ballroom dancers are connected, most of the time, (right)hip-to-(right)hip, not groin-to-groin; that offsets quite a bit of the awkwardness. On top of that, the shoulders must be apart (both dancers should lean away from each other), which further reduces the intimacy of a casual dance.

In my experience (casual dancer only), it's mostly in the tango where there's potential for overreach, because doing it properly means moving the hips closer to the ground by bending the knees, which increases the potential for upper-leg to groin contact -- that's pretty much where the tango originates from. But it's perfectly possible to dance a respectable tango with less bended knee, if things get awkward with your partner.

Re: The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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Post by deepGem »

oolonthegreat wrote: post #46
deepGem wrote: post #44

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Reminds me of the ass-out hug remark in Seinfeld.

btw I couldn't remember that in Seinfeld so I googled it and found this rant from "wedding crashers" https://youtu.be/9Tn0fr7EMow

This is in the first episode of Seinfeld season 1

Re: The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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Post by Slow_Hand »

comprev wrote: post #56
mudita wrote: post #14

Slightly off-topic: I’m a professional dancer, we specifically train hugging. For contemporary dance, because it’s an important skill for a lot of partnering moves, like jumps involving two persons (an example of partnering: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T1BbxTWsoO4&t=13s ). One important detail I found interesting is that for contemporary dancers, it’s not only about the arms, but how to use the whole body for the…

The variety of HN readers never ceases to amaze me.

I'm a record producer and co-owner of a general contracting company and I don't work in tech. The things that drew me to HN over ten years ago was 1) The breadth of intellectually stimulating essays and articles 2) The quality of discussion around said articles and 3) The quality of moderation and the culture that upholds it.

For the intellectually curious I don't know many other places in which to have these discussion online. Everything else seems to be corrupted in one way or another (trashy/unfocused content, poor/zero moderation, community not large or diverse enough).

If y'all know of another place that satisfies my three criteria above please let me know.

Re: The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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Post by BizarroLand »

chaoskanzlerin wrote: post #89
majkinetor wrote: post #63

I am amazed. Some scientist went to the boss to express interest in studding hugs. And it passed! :) Achievement completed I guess :)

to be fair, this one received no (external?) funding

Then again, how much could it cost to study hugs?

Re: The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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Post by ripe »

TacticalCoder wrote: post #81

I was concerned hugging, shaking hands and kissing would be going away due to the pandemic but it seems to have survived... so far: even if for one year or more it was gone. People were all fist bumping or elbow bumping instead of the traditional hand shake or kiss but now it seems to be going back to kisses (at least between french / belgians / russians for those that I know). Hand shakes are back too. Or, well, the…

> the vaccines either aren't working or are working for a very short duration of time

Citation needed. That's an extraordinary statement. The vaccines (at least the ones we have in the US) have very high efficacy and are probably responsible for hundreds of thousands of lives saved to date.

For example, Pfizer-BioNTech is 90-95%: https://www.cdc.gov/coronavirus/2019-ncov/vaccines/different...

Re: The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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Post by TobTobXX »

silicon2401 wrote: post #77
mudita wrote: post #14

Slightly off-topic: I’m a professional dancer, we specifically train hugging. For contemporary dance, because it’s an important skill for a lot of partnering moves, like jumps involving two persons (an example of partnering: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T1BbxTWsoO4&t=13s ). One important detail I found interesting is that for contemporary dancers, it’s not only about the arms, but how to use the whole body for the…

> abrazo I've always found the use of loan-words with mundane meanings amusing and baffling. 'Abrazo' translates directly to 'hug', just like 'langsam' in music translates directly to 'slow(ly)'.

Wait, English speaker use the German term 'langsam' for musical tempo?

I'm Swiss and instead of using this native term, we were trained in music scool to use the Italian term 'largo' or 'lento' for slow tempi.

Re: The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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Post by mleonhard »

Matrixik wrote: post #50
mudita wrote: post #14

Slightly off-topic: I’m a professional dancer, we specifically train hugging. For contemporary dance, because it’s an important skill for a lot of partnering moves, like jumps involving two persons (an example of partnering: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T1BbxTWsoO4&t=13s ). One important detail I found interesting is that for contemporary dancers, it’s not only about the arms, but how to use the whole body for the…

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