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The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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Re: The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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post #16

Earlier quoted context omitted.

well hugs can be directional or mutual too. two friends hug each other, mutually. a comforting partner gives their partner a hug, who receives it. a parent praises their child with a hug.

Yeah but if you go with "arm position means X", it can only be that for one of the two people.

I think you're all overthinking hugging :)

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post #10

Friends: one arm over, one under. Praise or love: both arms under. Comforting: both arms over.

Then, by definition, one of the participants will always be praising and the other will be comforting, unless you use the cross-hug.

Only assuming equal roles. These roles assume a huggee and a hugger, as described from the hugger's point of view as a gesture of support.

Re: The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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post #12

Best hug for me is no hug, thanks. I would bet 95% of the human beings never hugs except between lovers or parents and their kids. I would bet hug is very much a North American thing. I'm French and hate hugs (we kiss on the cheeks, which feels less intrusive to me, but is crasy intrusive in most non-Latin countries). I live in China and, in normal settings, people here won't hug, won't kiss and won't even shake hand…

Your experience and perspective on life is not universal and I wouldn't be so quick to generalize. I've had the luck of travelling a fair bit in my life and I would say hugging is common in many cultures, family ties or not. For context I'm not from North America.

Re: The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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post #12

Best hug for me is no hug, thanks. I would bet 95% of the human beings never hugs except between lovers or parents and their kids. I would bet hug is very much a North American thing. I'm French and hate hugs (we kiss on the cheeks, which feels less intrusive to me, but is crasy intrusive in most non-Latin countries). I live in China and, in normal settings, people here won't hug, won't kiss and won't even shake hand…

>I would bet 95% of the human beings never hugs except between lovers or parents and their kids.

And you'd be wrong. Hugging might not be big in your parts, but is a part of many cultures all around the world. Hardly a 5% rarity.

>Hugs between stars at international movie festivals do not reflect real people's life.

Nor do norms in a few countries.

I've travelled extensively, and I not sure where you got the idea that hugs are something only/mainly happening "between stars at international movie festivals".

From what I see "In traditional Chinese culture, hugging is not acceptable, particularly between people of the opposite sex. As Yang Chunmei, a professor at Qufu Normal University, has written, "public displays of affection are a source of embarrassment." Even among spouses, hugging, kissing, or holding hands in public is odd.".

But that's not universal. And even in China it apparently changes, if we're to believe this article:

https://sinosphere.blogs.nytimes.com/2014/05/07/more-hugs-pl...

Re: The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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post #19
post #6

Earlier quoted context omitted.

If you had bothered to notice that other people do things differently you’d realize that some of us always skim a text before deciding on if it’s worth our attention. Sometimes we win by not wasting our time, sometimes you win by reading something interesting that looked boring on the surface. Don’t be so judgmental.

I absolutely will judge someone who calls the way an article is written "dumb" like an entitled brat

Sounds like you need a type 3 hug

Re: The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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post #12

Best hug for me is no hug, thanks. I would bet 95% of the human beings never hugs except between lovers or parents and their kids. I would bet hug is very much a North American thing. I'm French and hate hugs (we kiss on the cheeks, which feels less intrusive to me, but is crasy intrusive in most non-Latin countries). I live in China and, in normal settings, people here won't hug, won't kiss and won't even shake hand…

Do you at least give side hugs to your friends?

Re: The Best Way to Hug Someone, According to Science

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post #12

Best hug for me is no hug, thanks. I would bet 95% of the human beings never hugs except between lovers or parents and their kids. I would bet hug is very much a North American thing. I'm French and hate hugs (we kiss on the cheeks, which feels less intrusive to me, but is crasy intrusive in most non-Latin countries). I live in China and, in normal settings, people here won't hug, won't kiss and won't even shake hand…

It's definitely cultural, I'm in the UK and I hug my friends when I'm saying hello or goodbye, but kissing on the cheek feels like something that old women do

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post #14

Slightly off-topic: I’m a professional dancer, we specifically train hugging. For contemporary dance, because it’s an important skill for a lot of partnering moves, like jumps involving two persons (an example of partnering: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T1BbxTWsoO4&t=13s ). One important detail I found interesting is that for contemporary dancers, it’s not only about the arms, but how to use the whole body for the…

I know this might be off-topic, but are you familiar with ballroom dance? If so, how does one learn to touch in a way that's not to stilted but doesn't, for lack of better phrasing, "overreach" into intimate territory?
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