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I find it funny that for "Software quality assurance analysts and testers" by far most common partner is "Software developer". However "Software quality assurance analysts and tester" isn't even in the list for "Software developers"

Yes, same for "Interpreters and translators" marry software developers at about 2%, but software developers don't marry "interpreters and translators" - not even on the list

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Ok, I can see the lopsided lawyers marrying lawyers, but how is it that software developers are so lopsidedly marrying other software developers when something like 90% of them are male? I guess pretty much every female software developer marries a male software developer which works out to the 12% number? Makes me sorta want to see a breakdown by sex. aka "male software developer has a 6% chance of marrying a softwa…

Given women almost always marry up (i.e. they marry men who earn more than themselves), if you break this up by sex I am pretty sure the numbers will look very different.

In Sweden highly educated women are marrying down. Just goes to show there's no reason not to break this sort of data analysis up per country and sex, it's not hard to do and will give much more relevant numbers to whomsoever it concerns.

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I was disappointed they didn't include "homemaker" or "unemployed" so you could see which professions supported a family by themselves.

I think you'd see a lot of professions of people who culturally value a homemaker, not anything about the highest paying careers. My guess is that the list you describe would be dominated by the trades, trucking, and small business ownership.

Are there people who don't value a homemaker? You don't value good home-cooked food? A clean house? Clean clothes? Children clothed and fed? Everything else your mother did for you?

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I'm a software developer. I don't know about the rest of the community but for me someone being in tech is, if not a disqualifier, something very close to it. I have no real reason or justification! I guess maybe I'm just techy enough as is and prefer other qualities in a partner.

You're crazy. My wife is an engineer and I'm a software developer. We make so much money. Want to know a great way to keep a relationship together? Never worry about money ever .

Better hope you never have to struggle through anything together then. Money doesn't solve all problems, sorry to say.

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

A few years ago I read a study which analysed this but I can't find the link. All I remember was among the occupations considered, actuaries were the least likely to divorce, especially to other actuaries. I think this is simply a consequence of the intellectual statifiction of society.

https://flowingdata.com/2017/07/25/divorce-and-occupation/

Thanks for linking this, this is as interesting as the main post imo. It's funny how most of the results are as expected, actuaries as the occupation with the lowest divorce rate, while jobs as bartenders and flight attendants sport the highest ones.

What's up with gaming related jobs being at the top though? Gaming managers and gaming services workers especially.

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I'm a software developer. I don't know about the rest of the community but for me someone being in tech is, if not a disqualifier, something very close to it. I have no real reason or justification! I guess maybe I'm just techy enough as is and prefer other qualities in a partner.

When I first became interested in having a girlfriend I thought I wanted to find a girl who was just like me but in a female body. I would become infatuated with any girl who was remotely attractive and showed similar interests to me, like programming, cycling, gaming etc. I've since realised there is not a single woman in the world who is into things like I'm into them, and it's better that way because I value more than just their body.

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post #301

Ok, I can see the lopsided lawyers marrying lawyers, but how is it that software developers are so lopsidedly marrying other software developers when something like 90% of them are male? I guess pretty much every female software developer marries a male software developer which works out to the 12% number? Makes me sorta want to see a breakdown by sex. aka "male software developer has a 6% chance of marrying a softwa…

I'm a male software engineer and I'm marrying a male software engineer, that may account for some the data too.

Maybe most straight male software engineers never get married?

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Careers that limit your ability to socialize outside of work, due to location (eg military) or hours (eg lawyers, teachers), lead to people marrying within their industry. This shouldn't be a big surprise.

How do the hours worked by teachers prevent them from socializing outside of work? I understand how lawyers are limited in this regard, as I've known many lawyers who regularly pulled 80 hour weeks. But I've never known a teacher who worked nearly this many hours. I used to be a lawyer and now work in edtech, so I've known plenty of folks in both professions. What am I missing?

My partner used to be a teacher and she worked 60 to 70 hours a week at the start of her career. It's the main reason she isn't a teacher any more. Most of the people she trained with and worked with have also left teaching for similar reasons. This is in the UK, so perhaps it's different where you are.

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post #66

I'm a software developer. I don't know about the rest of the community but for me someone being in tech is, if not a disqualifier, something very close to it. I have no real reason or justification! I guess maybe I'm just techy enough as is and prefer other qualities in a partner.

I once dated a lovely beautiful nerdy funny intelligent successful software engineer. Our first five dates were awesome. So much agreement and joy and commonality. Instant connection and camaraderie. Further on we realized we didn't bring enough to relationship. We didn't want the"gender I'm attracted version of myself". We each wanted somebody to bring new perspectives, challenge us in ways that work and nerdy frien…

So both me and my wife are software developers, but it's interesting because I'm a game dev(predominantly C++) but she is a full stack web dev - we have pretty much nothing in common when it comes to work. I have zero clue about web development, and similarily, she's not interested in games development/C++ programming.

So we still share loads of general interests as similarly geeky people, but one thing we don't do is we don't talk about work at home - outside of like office gossip and the like.

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