I would be interested in seeing which jobs often pair together among divorcing couples.
A few years ago I read a study which analysed this but I can't find the link. All I remember was among the occupations considered, actuaries were the least likely to divorce, especially to other actuaries. I think this is simply a consequence of the intellectual statifiction of society.
Which jobs most often pair together among married couples
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#172As a software engineer married to a farmer-cum-production line supervisor, this is interesting. I knew we were a rare pairing, but this is very rare.
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#173Earlier quoted context omitted.
Except many couples meet in school, where they'd be exposed to a disproportionate number of potential spouses within their own field of study, and maybe to a lesser extent others in related programs within the same college. Which would also be skewed by things like length of study and personality types attracted to particular interests. Eg, Doctors and lawyers often don't want to get married until after school, at wh…
I’ve read that one reason wealth inequality is worse today is because high-education-high-income individuals want to marry other HEHI individuals whereas in the past this wasn’t the case. If the claim about the past is true, it seems to undermine your point
Social class seems to have always played an important role in marriage (e.g. Jane Austen as a primer on 19th-century upperclass British society), so I'm not sure it's fair to say that this is change from the past. But I think it's fair to say that it is a factor in concentrating wealth.
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#174Earlier quoted context omitted.
>Could it just make sense for the wife to run the financial / administrative portion of the small business? Do you mean to refer to the wife, or to the partner who isn't a dentist?
Dentistry is a male dominated profession. He is simply rounding up to a whole number.
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I see what you did there.
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#175This will be kind of skewed towards the wealthy, as marriages are becoming less obtainable by the lower classes.
Marriage is actually a great financial choice for most people. If marriage rates are dropping, I'd blame our culture — the financial incentives are clearly there.
Unluckily, you cannot insure yourself against the immense risk of alimony payments if a divorce should happen.
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#176I'm a software developer. I don't know about the rest of the community but for me someone being in tech is, if not a disqualifier, something very close to it. I have no real reason or justification! I guess maybe I'm just techy enough as is and prefer other qualities in a partner.
I have just learned I'm the same way. I had actually never thought about it, but I had an unexpected physical negative reaction when I saw the stats on software developers so often pairing with other software developers. Just something about it turns my stomach. I hope its not some internalised misogyny, as I have no similar response to idea of a partner in any other high skilled job, such as physician, or barrister,…
I definitely wouldn't want to date me, and I'm a pretty generic SWE. I think many of us are low in empathy, and seek out partners who have more empathy. A natural balance, so to speak.
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#177I was disappointed they didn't include "homemaker" or "unemployed" so you could see which professions supported a family by themselves.
I think you'd see a lot of professions of people who culturally value a homemaker, not anything about the highest paying careers. My guess is that the list you describe would be dominated by the trades, trucking, and small business ownership.
don't jump to conclusions there are many professionals who opt to be a home maker because it's best for their personal growth and family
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#178I'm a software developer. I don't know about the rest of the community but for me someone being in tech is, if not a disqualifier, something very close to it. I have no real reason or justification! I guess maybe I'm just techy enough as is and prefer other qualities in a partner.
You're crazy. My wife is an engineer and I'm a software developer. We make so much money. Want to know a great way to keep a relationship together? Never worry about money ever .
I agree that having money is great - but are you actually saying that the best relationship is one where combined income is maximized?
Is there no room in your utility function for mutual growth, sum being larger than the parts, etc?
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#179Ok, I can see the lopsided lawyers marrying lawyers, but how is it that software developers are so lopsidedly marrying other software developers when something like 90% of them are male?
I guess pretty much every female software developer marries a male software developer which works out to the 12% number?
Makes me sorta want to see a breakdown by sex. aka "male software developer has a 6% chance of marrying a software developer vs female software developer which has a 95% chance of marrying another software developer."
OTOH, its not as pronounced with nurses which have a similar problem in reverse.
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#180Earlier quoted context omitted.
I’ve read that one reason wealth inequality is worse today is because high-education-high-income individuals want to marry other HEHI individuals whereas in the past this wasn’t the case. If the claim about the past is true, it seems to undermine your point
Social class seems to have always played an important role in marriage (e.g. Jane Austen as a primer on 19th-century upperclass British society), so I'm not sure it's fair to say that this is change from the past. But I think it's fair to say that it is a factor in concentrating wealth.
The change is the soaring achievement levels of some woman where they achieve themselves right out of marriage-ability.