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I would be interested in seeing which jobs often pair together among divorcing couples.
I’m a big believer in the engineer (logical) and helping professions (emotional). match. If you look at the category of ‘software developers’ and add up all the helping professions like teachers and nurses and others it is the #1 pairing. This software engineer has been married to his teacher wife for 29 years and going strong …
No opinion on your main point though - you may be right :)
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Except many couples meet in school, where they'd be exposed to a disproportionate number of potential spouses within their own field of study, and maybe to a lesser extent others in related programs within the same college. Which would also be skewed by things like length of study and personality types attracted to particular interests. Eg, Doctors and lawyers often don't want to get married until after school, at wh…
I’ve read that one reason wealth inequality is worse today is because high-education-high-income individuals want to marry other HEHI individuals whereas in the past this wasn’t the case. If the claim about the past is true, it seems to undermine your point
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I wonder if it’s the opposite. From my experience dentists tend to run their own practice or partner with one or two other dentists. Could it just make sense for the spouse to run the financial / administrative portion of the small business? Edit: s/wife/spouse
>Could it just make sense for the wife to run the financial / administrative portion of the small business? Do you mean to refer to the wife, or to the partner who isn't a dentist?
I was disappointed they didn't include "homemaker" or "unemployed" so you could see which professions supported a family by themselves.
I think you'd see a lot of professions of people who culturally value a homemaker, not anything about the highest paying careers. My guess is that the list you describe would be dominated by the trades, trucking, and small business ownership.
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I had a similar experience dating someone in the field, though it went on a bit longer. for me it was just kinda rough to come home from a day of working on software to talk to my SO about their problems with software. great person, but it was an exhausting relationship. on the other hand, most of my friends also do software stuff and we enjoy complaining to each other about work. I guess maybe the difference is you…
I'm in this situation now. I'll have a bad day, then my partner comes home and dumps her bad day on top of mine. I don't know to handle it, because if I ask her to stop she sulks. It means I don't care about her bad day.
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> But the real explanation is that realistically 90% of people meet their spouses in university This is very exaggerated. It seems like people who find their partner in university are in the minority these days.
Is that the case? I guess my university experience is 10 years out of date but that's how it was back then.
Many anecdotal guesses are validated by this data. Doctors and agricultural workers are the obvious standouts, but I see a few more too. Us programmers stick together. Quite a high rate of marrying within the community. Lawyers show a similarly high number. A criticism of the study, is that it does not normalize by how many of these professions are in the general population. So, it appears as though software analysts…
> Doctors and agricultural workers are the obvious standouts Doctor is one of the few profession that's available in the countryside, where 90% of the jobs will be in the agricultural sector. > So, it appears as though software analysts don't like intermarrying. However, the truth is that there simply aren't enough of them around, they are simply more likely to run into software engineers, so that's whom they marry m…
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Is that the case? I guess my university experience is 10 years out of date but that's how it was back then.
School demographics matter a lot. The Harvard crowd isn't finding their future wife at school.
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I wonder if it’s the opposite. From my experience dentists tend to run their own practice or partner with one or two other dentists. Could it just make sense for the spouse to run the financial / administrative portion of the small business? Edit: s/wife/spouse
>Could it just make sense for the wife to run the financial / administrative portion of the small business? Do you mean to refer to the wife, or to the partner who isn't a dentist?