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Tired of dating apps, Vancouver man launches social experiment to find companion

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Re: Tired of dating apps, Vancouver man launches social experiment to find companion

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Post by dane-pgp »

rektide wrote: post #19

i was starting to cobble together a project Eddystone (bluetooth le url beacon) dating profile, before google killed the android notifications for eddystone. the inability to communicate digitally with those around us at a bar or at a park is pretty silly. it'd be so neat to start more ad-hoc, non-applicationized communications channels! and a chief use would definitely be, "hi, single and interested!" was talking wi…

> i was starting to cobble together a project Eddystone (bluetooth le url beacon) dating profile

When I got my first smartphone, I wondered if there might be a trend of single people setting their Bluetooth device name to the URL of their dating profile. Ideally the profile would have a machine-readable set of fields in (alongside a human-readable equivalent) and an app could calculate if you are compatible with anyone in the vicinity.

The system could still work without an app, though, since the user (when they notice someone they are attracted to nearby) could manually scan for Bluetooth device names using their phone, and browse to each page to check if the profile picture matches the person they noticed.

I know there have been some geo-location based dating services, but I think they have an incentive to make the matching radius as wide as possible, so that you keep looking at their app. On an open system, though, the economics of hosting these profiles should be similar to that of hosting Fediverse accounts, so there shouldn't be the same conflicts of interest.

Re: Tired of dating apps, Vancouver man launches social experiment to find companion

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Post by webmobdev »

gajjanag wrote: post #124
webmobdev wrote: post #79

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Being an indian, I find this funny - in our culture (and I guess most asian cultures), it is quite common for the elders in our social network do so much unsolicited match-making that it can sometimes be irksome. :) India even has matchmaking websites for those wanting to find a suitable partner for marriage (half of the posts in it will be from parents / relatives of the prospective bride / groom). It's actually qui…

> Apart from charging for membership, these sites also abuse lax privacy laws and sell the individual profiles to data brokers and marketing divisions of various industries. Am curious - do you think the Match group is any different? Their market cap suggests that they also do the same...

I don't know - I wouldn't be surprised though. I was just pointing out that lax privacy laws allows an online service to get away with a lot ...

Re: Tired of dating apps, Vancouver man launches social experiment to find companion

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Post by quantumBerry »

blunte wrote: post #134
FooBarBizBazz wrote: post #125

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I was about to quibble with > Females have a biological incentive to be more choosy than men as their reproductive investment is much higher until I saw you had also written > If each woman and each man can only choose one partner, i would expect the choosiness of men and women to become much more equal which is the missing piece I was going to add. > In reality we know that humans historically have not really been m…

It seems that your definition of "good husbands and fathers" implicitly disallows non-monogamous interactions. I would bet that men (from couples) who have clear and open communication can be otherwise very loving partners and devoted parents without also having to be monogamous. If you zoom out just a bit and look at what is physically occurring, why should it be that physically touching someone else would prevent y…

At an individual level, one could be a good husband and father and be non-monogamous. At an individual level, one could also be a good monogamous husband and father. I agree with you there, although I think the expectations for most (but not all) people in western nations is that their wife/husband will be "faithful" in the traditional sense. If most wives expect most husbands to be monogomous, it starts to look like the _average_ person who is "unfaithful" is a "bad" husband by definition of the wife (even if they care deeply for their wife and any children). This also suffers from the network effect that even if the wife is ok with non-monogamy, family and friends could still shame her into being negatively effected by any non-monogamous actions in the marriage.

At a population level, it's hardly even up for debate that humans are not monogamous. This has been researched ad nauseum, although I am too lazy at the moment to dig up the research at the moment.

Re: Tired of dating apps, Vancouver man launches social experiment to find companion

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Post by jeegsy »

pvaldes wrote: post #84
jwond wrote: post #53

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There was an OKCupid study that found that women on OKCupid rated 80% of men as below average. https://techcrunch.com/2009/11/18/okcupid-inbox-attractive/

Discovering that men 'over average' don't have problems to find women or are married yet, so don't need the services of the platform wouldn't be much of a surprise...

This is very true. Anecdote and all that but I've known some very fortunate dudes who literally just had to show up and the ladies would fall over themselves. It was entertaining and sobering at the same time.

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Post by EricE »

yissp wrote: post #101
emptysongglass wrote: post #89

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I really want to call out the technical founders here, Chris Coyne and Max Krohn, because they've done nothing but leave a legacy of abandoned products in the hands of untrustworthy companies: in the case of OkCupid they sold to Match.com which devastated the site committing it to the same wastebasket as Match.com's portfolio of other predatory dating products. Then they created Keybase, which was fantastic, before s…

Building new things is fun, maintaining what you've built not as much. I suspect most software people would agree.

And thus why most software is utter crap too. When people first talked about holding software development to the same standards as professional engineering I thought it was crazy, but the longer I've been in this the more I think it is absolutely required - for this reason if nothing else. It's called work for a reason and the un-fun stuff is often as or more important than the fun stuff.

Re: Tired of dating apps, Vancouver man launches social experiment to find companion

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Post by harimau777 »

doctorwho42 wrote: post #9
Arech wrote: post #3

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Ha! I second for okcupid. The only normal dating site (that allows indepth profiles) that I was able to find back in 2015-16. Never needed it since then, because I married a girl I met there)

Unfortunately okcupid has trended away from what it was 5+ years ago. My last SO was through okcupid right before they changed the incentives in the system. Now it has been driven towards the same swipe culture as all the other apps. Though you can still answer questions and write detailed profile... The system doesn't seem to promote that as much. My key gripe right now with how it is setup is that the only discover…

Has anyone found an alternative to OkCupid? Now that you can't search it has become basically worthless.

Re: Tired of dating apps, Vancouver man launches social experiment to find companion

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Post by jojadog »

Don't give up, just take a break or choose a different format for communication. For example, I liked the video chats. I think that in your case we should look for different options such as the https://coomeet.com/ page where you can connect without internet problems and especially with this page you can do many things like meet girls from different parts of the world.

Re: Tired of dating apps, Vancouver man launches social experiment to find companion

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Post by jesusohchrist »

CyberDildonics wrote: post #130
dazc wrote: post #115

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The 'fast-food of realtionships' sums it up pretty well. However, if you disagree and have found otherwise then I respect that too. Personally, it's not for me but then I have been single for a while so I'm not really qualified to criticise.

Again, you are just saying the same thing but not actually explaining why you are saying that.

CyberDildo - Do you identify as a democrat?
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