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Partisan attachment: How politics is changing dating and relationships (2020)

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Re: Partisan attachment: How politics is changing dating and relationships (2020)

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Counter-intuitively, my parents have stayed happily married for a very long time and my dad is significantly more conservative than my mom (although my mom has become more "conservative" in the current decade in reaction to how extreme rhetoric on the left has become in the US). I am about to propose to my long-time partner who is significantly more to the left than I am (we are both to the left, I'm barely left of c…

Yes, and it's more than just politics. In any marriage, someone will be more conservative, and someone will be more liberal. But also, someone will be more fiscally conservative, and someone more willing/eager to spend. Someone will be more of a morning person, and the other more of a night owl. Someone will be more extroverted and social, and the other more of an introvert. Someone will be more athletic and outdoors…

> Those differences exist. They're going to hit your relationship, because they hit every relationship. Can the two of you deal with them (all of them) in a reasonable and healthy manner, or not?

Just so. This is also true of friendships as much as it is romance, and nobody much likes being friends with someone who is domineering and zealous. Agreeableness is a useful trait in relationships of every type and for many farther reaching cases than simple politics. I think that politics /might/ be becoming a more strict relationship divider in our current times, but is is less to do with politics, and more to do with the lack of agreeableness amongst people.

Re: Partisan attachment: How politics is changing dating and relationships (2020)

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People on this site like to mindlessly parrot the “we’ve become too partisan and divided these days” narrative, but what are they actually proposing? Oh wait… https://twitter.com/rottenindenmark/status/14326439023229255...

Not picking on you, but...for how little sense this makes to me, it's practically an inside joke. Between not having any idea who the participants are, and the horrid experience of reading Twitter (I presume the intended reading order is quoted tweet > tweet > text in picture?), I have absolutely no idea what the fuck is going on. Nor can I be bothered to care for something so irrelevant. Twitter "discourse" is like…

> Nor can I be bothered to care for something so irrelevant.

How is it irrelevant? The highlighted quote in the article excerpt says 'Kauffmann claimed that the instance of female students refusing to date Trump supporters provides evidence of "progressive authoritarianism"' which seems extremely on-topic to me.

Re: Partisan attachment: How politics is changing dating and relationships (2020)

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I disagree. I mean sure, it's a good thing (if true) that race is less significant than politics in choosing a partner, but why should we have to pick one? unless you're part of a very select group of activists, politicians, or wealthy donors, your impact on world issues is pretty much negligible. the political opinions of the average person are much less significant than they might think. but what we can do is have…

BRB changing my gender back so I can date a transphobe. Glad I changed my political position!

Would you please stop posting ideological flamebait to HN? I have no idea what your ideology is but you've been doing this a ton lately and we ban that sort of account—it's not what this site is for.

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