Young U.S. men having a lot less sex in the 21st century, study shows

I don't see the undertones. Copied from another comment:

It's so interesting how whenever any man talks about romantic problems he is met with this feminist mantra "you aren't owed sex". Do you honestly think that's what we're talking about? If someone talked about how much it sucks that they don't have car and need to walk to work would you tell them "you aren't owed a car"?

I think people regurgitate this phrase because we can't ever acknowledge that sexual empowerment results in peoples needs not being met. It must be their fault, they must be sabotaging somehow. They must be sexists.

They wrote a song about it.

   City girls just seem to find out early
   How to open doors with just a smile
   A rich old man

   And she won't have to worry
   She'll dress up all in lace and go in style
   Late at night a big old house gets lonely
   I guess every form of refuge has its price
   And it breaks her heart to think her love is
   Only given to a man with hands as cold as ice
   So she tells him she must go out for the evening
   To comfort an old friend who's feeling down
   But he knows where she's going as she's leaving
   She is headed for the cheating side of town

   You can't hide your lying eyes
   And your smile is a thin disguise
   I thought by now you'd realize
   There ain't no way to hide your lying eyes

   On the other side of town a boy is waiting
   With fiery eyes and dreams no one could steal
   She drives on through the night anticipating
   Because he makes her feel the way she used to feel
   She rushes to his arms
   They fall together
   She whispers that it's only for awhile
   She swears that soon she'll be coming back forever
   She pulls away and leaves him with a smile

   You can't hide your lying eyes
   And your smile is a thin disguise
   I thought by now you'd realize
   There ain't no way to hide your lying eyes

   She gets up and pours herself a strong one
   And stares out at the stars up in the sky
   Another night, it's gonna be a long one
   She draws the shade and hangs her head to cry
   She wonders how it ever got this crazy
   She thinks about a boy she knew in school
   Did she get tired or did she just get lazy?
   She's so far gone she feels just like a fool
   My, oh my, you sure know how to arrange things
   You set it up so well, so carefully
   Ain't it funny how your new life didn't change things
   You're still the same old girl you used to be

   You can't hide your lying eyes
   And your smile is a thin disguise
   I thought by now you'd realize
   There ain't no way to hide your lying eyes
   There ain't no way to hide your lying eyes
   Honey, you can't hide your lying eyes

You mean their biological clock is ticking to get kids?

> female attraction is really complicated

They indeed look for more aspects than men. But I think it can best be summed up as:

1. successful man 2. man sweet enough to take care of the family 3. man hard enough to protect the family from the outside world

I think there is still confusion about these points: successful does not equal rich. A born-rich loser will have a harder time than a hard working entrepreneur that might hit jackpot some day.

And they are not looking for jerks. They are looking for jerks to the outside world, and sweet to them. Basically a man who can and will protect them and their family.

But of course, I think we can all agree that women are more complex than this ;).

Women do this in general because mentioning physical attractiveness among women is taboo. This is why a personality-focused, zero pictures version of Tinder would utterly fail. Do you think women would leap to such an app, finally being able to judge people by their wit and conversation skills and empathy? Of course not. They want photos.

> Judge for youerself: I'm tall, super skinny (most often the skinniest), have a very atypical face, so yea not in the top 1%.

Height gives an enormous advantage. The rest I can't comment on, but I suspect you're underselling yourself. If you're white and have a conventional appearance (even if not chiseled or model like), you're much more acceptable to a woman (and her friends, and her family) than a 5'6" Indian guy.

What I've noticed is that any guy can fall to rock bottom, but not every guy can float to the top. There's a lot of privilege to go around. When people try to take credit for everything in their life, whether it's business/dating/athleticism or whatever, it's just trying to deny privilege and ascribe some fairness to a world that we all know is not. I know I'm privileged in some ways that hot guys are not. I mean Tucker Max is in therapy today.