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Sucks to be you. Enjoy life my friend, is not as bad you might think :)
I doubt he doesn't enjoy life. It's possible to enjoy life with such attitude too. And actually it's quite easy. And no emotional hangover after "friends" fail you!
Actually, the two of you have a lot in common. Maybe you guys should be friends!
So you're having trouble relating to people because they're not as interested in coding as you are? Sounds like what you really need is a broader range of interests.
I can't tell you what you should be interested in. All I can tell you is that there's a lot more to life than sitting around coding, and university is the perfect time to experience it.
“If you’re lonely when you’re alone, you’re in bad company.” - Satre
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Seconded for Dancing. But you don't have to be good at it... Everyone who starts learning the Waltz or ChaCha (or Swing, or Tango) is appalling at it. And it's pretty liberating to be in a group of people all of whom are happy klutzes. At my (pretty tech-centric) university, the dance club had over 2000 members : the key selling point for the guys being 'girls like to dance'. And learning steps together has a logic c…
I didn't say great or excellent, just good. If you don't like it, you won't get good. Competence is sexy. Shared WTF will get you started, but that's about it. Shared passion is another level entirely.
However, the basic initial win for the OP is to get out of the house, and have a blast learning something with a bunch of other people. The aim doesn't have to be to get good - it's a major step just to turn up. I was just trying to suggest that every beginner will be in much the same boat. IMHO, learning to dance is a much easier social activity than 'going to parties', for instance.
Use your loneliness as an advantage. How? Being lonely means that you don't belong to any group and are free to move as you see fit. This is what I did, and it worked. I assume that you start from 0 friends (I did, since I moved to another country some months ago). Start knowing someone close and easy: classmates, colleagues, occasional acquaintances, but beware not to be stuck with someone as lonely as you. Your obj…
If you like dancing, then I too highly recommend dancing! A majority of my (admittedly largely disastrous) romantic life was based on dancing. Note: this only works if you like it and you're good at it. The latter often results naturally from the former. Parties are also great. My current relationship was the result of going to a School of Public Health crêpe party.
BTW, you might find going straight from coding all day to dance class an interesting experience mentally. :P
It's a great way to meet new people, both from your home country and the country you are visiting. Living in one country you get accustomed to a certain way of life, so this can help you break out of your comfort zone to try new things. Studying abroad was really an eye opening experience for me; definitely one of the best decisions I ever made.
Also, have you tried dancing? :) As Woody Allen said, "80 percent of success is showing up."
1. Go to events that thematically match your interests. If you're an university student, that probably will be attending student conference or science fair. You'll definitely find people like yourself there. It helps if you participate and show your work to others. I met a number of smart people this way. 2. Considering getting in some research group. Not only you will find people to talk to, but also it will help you grow professionally.