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I am 27 and I've been with my current partner for almost 3 years and we've semi-lived together most of that time. She's currently still at university so we spend weekends and holidays together. Her parents are divorced and mine are married but miserable, also neither of us has any religious drive to get married (I'm pagan and shes agnostic). We agreed early on that neither of us wants to get married or have kids but…
As someone who lived abroad for 6+ years then returned to my home country happily married I want to give out this advice: if living/working abroad from your home country and having your partner with you is an important part of your life plan - get married now. This includes couples who have the same citizenship but might go abroad for work/travel for an extensive period of time. While many countries have domestic par…
Canadian immigration gave us hell because we could only prove the relationship existed for 11 months and 3 weeks (gotta be able to prove 1 year).
In the end we were saved by online pizza receipts and amazon orders that proved we were living in the same place at the same time for a while. Delayed the application for months though. Should have just put a ring on it earlier, even if a pro-forma sign-at-the-courthouse thing.
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Something something correlation causation
There are a lot of instances where long married men lose their wives then die very soon afterwards. When there's a correlation of something with longevity and removing the something is soon followed by death, then there's good reason to believe the causation theory.
Some of that is just timing, like if the average age of death per the actuary tables is like 79, and your spouse dies at 80, you're statistically going fairly soon as well.
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I don't feel the need to get married because anything a wife can do, I can do with appliances and without breaking a sweat. It's more about sharing your life with someone than getting chores done. one thing that might make it somewhat more appealing is if western culture could do away with the needless expenses around the tradition and the ceremony...If it was not a disappointment that people have modest weddings, pe…
> It's more about sharing your life with someone than getting chores done. I agree, but it's also about those things as well and has been since time immemorial. When those things go away, is it surprising when people settle for relationships over the complexities of marriage? > I've been in some bands that would get hired for weddings, and the most beautiful weddings I've been at were DIY affairs done at home on the…
Long term relationships are complicated as it is. Just how much additional complication is caused by marriage?