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Do you think just saying “this is broken in this way” has an identical effect to yelling at someone for being thoughtless? It seems you think one approach is clearly worse. But as a thought experiment can you imagine how each approach might have real tangible advantages?
It does not have an identical effect. For one, the listener has a reason to listen to you with regards to the former. For two, everyone else is not provided with a reason to pull the ripcord and avoid you entirely. I understand the point of view that yes, it may have advantages to abuse people for your immediate and short-term desires. The attempt to cast abuse as valid for those advantages belies the truth of a nast…
I’ve wotked with people who genuinely respond well to that kind of feedback. It seems you think one-size fits all, and fits every situation?