Study: Today’s dads are engaging more with their kids

Post by dragonwriter » Fri, Jun 15, 2018, 2:15 AM UTC

rconti wrote: post #7

My employer just increased their family leave from 12 weeks to 20 weeks, which is a great perk. These days nobody seems to differentiate from maternity vs paternity leave, which is a great idea because, aside from the value it provides fathers, it also gets rid of the idea that the mother should get more time because mothers should be more involved. (alas, you can argue that it ignores the physical sacrifices the mot…

Post by dsnuh » Fri, Jun 15, 2018, 3:25 AM UTC

Karishma1234 wrote: post #18

ksenzee wrote: post #5

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They were studying fathers, so their denominator was fathers, not children. There's plenty of research showing that fathers make a big difference in their children's lives and happiness. From what I can tell this study doesn't speak to that one way or the other.

My point has been that even though fathers are spending more time with children on an average all children are receiving lesser fatherly attention on an average. May be fathers who love children are staying in marriage thus giving a bias to the whole study.

Post by NDizzle » Fri, Jun 15, 2018, 3:58 AM UTC

ktross wrote: post #33

NDizzle wrote: post #25

I left the bay area in 2013 when my third kid was born. I'm about 110 miles north now. I expected that as I withdrew from long office hours, replacing it with remote work, my income stagnate (or go down). The opposite happened - my income has actually gone up steadily. Towards the point of this topic - I have been able to spend a lot of time with my kids. We walk (or bike) to and from school, I coach sports, and I'm…

I’m a newly single parent, and I’ve been considering my options in regards to remote work. Are you employed full time by a single company or do you find freelance work? The challenge and time investment of finding new clients constantly has me leaning away from freelancing. I haven’t yet been able to find a full time position that’s flexible enough (results based) though.

Post by fjsolwmv » Fri, Jun 15, 2018, 4:46 AM UTC

chrisseaton wrote: post #29

cimmanom wrote: post #27

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No. For most women it's awesome that men get paternity leave. @rconti suggested that equal paternity leave might be unfair because of the additional physical costs that women pay to give birth; I was disagreeing with that, saying that if anything paternity adds value for those women. Paternity leave even adds value for women who will never have children, because it undercuts any argument that prefers hiring men over…

> They're simply put at a disadvantage relative to other mothers as a result. How on earth are they put at a disadvantage that someone who does not exist, and so does not need the benefit, does not get that benefit? And more broadly is it nice to talk about someone else getting a benefit that they need as being putting people who do not get it at a 'disadvantage'? Are you disadvantaged that people who can't walk get…

Post by fjsolwmv » Fri, Jun 15, 2018, 4:51 AM UTC

delbel wrote: post #24

evilantnie wrote: post #10

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I don't see the comment you're referring to, but McBride was quoting one of the authors of the study. Technically this isn't "spin", Toxic Masculinity and Hegemonic Masculinity are both fields of study in psychology having to do with promotion of dominance and violence. I think both fields influenced this study. It looks like they developed a Parent-Child-Conflict scale that included spanking, hitting, or threatening…

I had to look up Hegemonic Masculinity, and I think I definitely know somebody with this trait (if it is valid) -- one of my employees. I hired him specifically to deal with problems with other employees as a manager. Part of his job he leaves early to coach soccer (which they are doing good, going to state). His children are great and he is completely engaged on a daily basis (they all live on a large farm, if that…