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Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with customers on my website

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Re: Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with customers on my website

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Post by moomin »

coryfklein wrote: post #428
moomin wrote: post #331

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They eliminated anonymity in large chunks of South Korea’s social media. People didn’t behave better. (With that said, there are certain behaviours e.g. support for fascism that seem to be associated with having large numbers of anon accounts.)

Yea, this is pretty useless information unless you can provide a source for these claims. I find it very hard to believe that the complete elimination of anonymity on a social media platform resulted in exactly 0 improvement in measurable behavior. I Googled both your anonymity and your fascism claims and couldn't find anything, but I'd love to learn more.

Here's one. There's plenty.

https://www.theringer.com/2016/8/9/16046698/anonymous-twitte...

Re: Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with customers on my website

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Post by leadingthenet »

dang wrote: post #558
leadingthenet wrote: post #494

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I am genuinely curious what you mean by this. Why do you view James Damore-types as sexist and/or racist?

Ugh. Please read https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html and don't take HN threads into off-topic flamewar hell. If you haven't had enough Damore flamewars, the search box at the bottom of this page will give you enough to last the rest of your life.

Right, so instead of poiting me to a discussion or an opinion piece, you linked me to the HN guidelines. How nice of you.

Re: Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with customers on my website

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Post by Can_Not »

YetAnotherNick wrote: post #613
DoreenMichele wrote: post #572

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The problem runs deeper than that. I'm a woman and have participated on HN for about 8.5 years. HN is one of the most civilized environments I have participated in. I still have men politely email me to essentially chat me up and otherwise don't want to engage me at all. I recently offered to let someone email me to discuss their issue. They were all enthused. We never discussed their issue. They basically wanted to…

> about 99% of men have only one reason You lost me on this.

There is a loud minority of men who seek out opportunities and jump at any opportunity to sexually harass a woman. It's not uncommon that women often encounter these males in ridiculous volumns. Some women actually get such a volumn of sexist males that it's difficult to form regular relationships with members of the male community who are not overtly sexist. Please don't let this somewhat offensive exaggeration make you dismiss the daily struggles women can have with never ending systematic sexism.

Re: Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with customers on my website

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Post by [deleted] »

dang wrote: post #648
drewmol wrote: post #647

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>Instead you began by being a dick I'd like to point out that using this word to imply certain traits (commonly stereotyped to male behaviors) is not much different from calling someone a pussy to imply weakness/sensativity/etc.

I don't want to touch the flamebaity aspect of this but the word 'dick' was too harsh and not one I usually use in moderation comments. I changed it to the slightly more modulated 'jerk'.

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Re: Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with customers on my website

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Post by staticelf »

adbachman wrote: post #328
staticelf wrote: post #307

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When I play online games, in this example PUBG, I think a part of the fun is to be rude and aggressive before the match starts. You're about to virtually shoot them in the head so saying something rude to random online gamers doesn't feel at all bad. Other people often respond back, just as rudely and I think it's hilarious. It can't be just me who thinks and acts like this? Context matters a lot in my opinion. Altho…

If part of the fun for you is acting like a jerk to other people online, then it means you enjoy acting like a jerk to other people. Context is interesting, but it just means that overall, you’re only sometimes acting like a jerk. You might just be a jerk.

Yes I do enjoy it but it heavily depends on the game. In other games which has a more mature community I never trash talk.

Re: Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with customers on my website

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Post by staticelf »

GVIrish wrote: post #356
staticelf wrote: post #307

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When I play online games, in this example PUBG, I think a part of the fun is to be rude and aggressive before the match starts. You're about to virtually shoot them in the head so saying something rude to random online gamers doesn't feel at all bad. Other people often respond back, just as rudely and I think it's hilarious. It can't be just me who thinks and acts like this? Context matters a lot in my opinion. Altho…

> You're about to virtually shoot them in the head so saying something rude to random online gamers doesn't feel at all bad. Other people often respond back, just as rudely and I think it's hilarious. Examine what you're saying here. You're saying because YOU don't feel bad when you do it to others, it's okay. And because people retaliate, that makes your initial act of rudeness ok, as if that's what the other party…

> And because people retaliate, that makes your initial act of rudeness ok, as if that's what the other party wanted.

This isn't what I said, you're putting meaning where there is none. I just think it's fun when people retaliate.

> How would you know if they did care?

I wouldn't, that's why I wrote "think".

Your comment and all the downvote tells me people at HN probably don't play PUBG that much.

Re: Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with customers on my website

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Post by staticelf »

zeveb wrote: post #443
staticelf wrote: post #307

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When I play online games, in this example PUBG, I think a part of the fun is to be rude and aggressive before the match starts. You're about to virtually shoot them in the head so saying something rude to random online gamers doesn't feel at all bad. Other people often respond back, just as rudely and I think it's hilarious. It can't be just me who thinks and acts like this? Context matters a lot in my opinion. Altho…

> When I play online games, in this example PUBG, I think a part of the fun is to be rude and aggressive before the match starts. You're about to virtually shoot them in the head so saying something rude to random online gamers doesn't feel at all bad. You're right about how in some context trash talk is expected & part of the game, but maybe it'd be better to play games in which one doesn't practise insulting, mocki…

> it'd be better to play games in which one doesn't practise insulting, mocking & killing others

Sounds like very boring games. Being rude in PUBG helps me being nicer IRL. That is what matters to me.

Re: Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with customers on my website

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Post by therealdrag0 »

cyberferret wrote: post #218

I found this post deeply upsetting and alarming. I guess I am lucky that my co-founder and I run a B2B SaaS, and not a B2C company - in over two years of running a chat agent on our website and within our app, we have never had anything even close to this. Frankly, seeing the interactions on that blog post was like opening a door into some sort of hell hole. Maybe I lead some sort of cloistered life online, but I don…

> we have never had anything even close to this

Have you confirmed this with your cofounder?

Re: Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with customers on my website

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Post by therealdrag0 »

nasredin wrote: post #642
Helmet wrote: post #266

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I've been both sexually harassed at work and groped by strangers when out on the town (by a woman) - but yeah, I agree with your larger point. I think it's certainly more prevalent the other way around.

How did you feel? Yeah... I still got it! or Something negative?

I got groped by some passing female tailgaters when I was just walking down the street minding my own business listening to a podcast. It was very startling.

Re: Why I don't use my real photo when messaging with customers on my website

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Post by newfoundglory »

leadingthenet wrote: post #652
dang wrote: post #558

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Ugh. Please read https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html and don't take HN threads into off-topic flamewar hell. If you haven't had enough Damore flamewars, the search box at the bottom of this page will give you enough to last the rest of your life.

Right, so instead of poiting me to a discussion or an opinion piece, you linked me to the HN guidelines. How nice of you.

You can lead a seal to the search box, but you can’t make them type in it.
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