Tricks to make yourself effortlessly charming

Post by philwelch » Tue, Dec 26, 2017, 4:30 AM UTC

chickenfries wrote: post #35

trentmb wrote: post #19

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Totally off topic- why is it people always use "voracious" to describe their reading habits?

It's funny how some adjectives always seem to be followed by certain nouns, huh? I think about this whenever I heard about "bodies strewn on the street" on the news. Reading (and watching) seems to be compared to eating all the time: - I devoured that book - I binged that season Then there's that term, "consumption" which seemingly applies to every piece of media.

Post by tacon » Tue, Dec 26, 2017, 5:49 AM UTC

trentmb wrote: post #92

kaybe wrote: post #57

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If you think this sounds stupid - try, it works surprisingly well!

I think I had someone try this on me- I just recall thinking they were a patronizing ass.

Post by mrhappyunhappy » Tue, Dec 26, 2017, 6:27 AM UTC

gkya wrote: post #139

dwaltrip wrote: post #124

Concepts I've found effective and powerful: * Given them your attention and listen closely. Ask considerate questions. * Practice empathy. People usually don't want advice, they most often simply want someone else to understand their experiences. If they are open to advice and you have a tidbit of wisdom, share it kindly and with obvious humility * Channel your optimistic/zen side. All bad experiences are temporary,…

> * Practice empathy. People usually don't want advice, they most often simply want someone else to understand their experiences. If they are open to advice and you have a tidbit of wisdom, share it kindly and with obvious humility This is a thing I sometimes crave... People are very eager to teach you lessons and give one advice after another, when you open yourself up even the tiniest bit, if your life is even slig…

Post by dwaltrip » Tue, Dec 26, 2017, 7:23 AM UTC

cousin_it wrote: post #136

dwaltrip wrote: post #124

Concepts I've found effective and powerful: * Given them your attention and listen closely. Ask considerate questions. * Practice empathy. People usually don't want advice, they most often simply want someone else to understand their experiences. If they are open to advice and you have a tidbit of wisdom, share it kindly and with obvious humility * Channel your optimistic/zen side. All bad experiences are temporary,…

I think using your analytical mind to affect your attention and behavior in social situations isn't the best way to learn social skills, because it's too easy to come across as creepy if you don't have the right "feel" for doing these things. My own approach is more about unlocking another part of your mind, to which socializing makes sense natively. It's a bit more inwardly focused, but still supposed to be used in…

Post by jbnicolai » Tue, Dec 26, 2017, 8:59 AM UTC

philwelch wrote: post #95

> "Suzanne de Janasz, an affiliated professor of management at Seattle University, says interpersonal skills are becoming increasingly important in the workplace as organisations have done away with older, hierarchical structures in recent years." Yup. "Flat" organizational structures don't exist in reality; you're just replacing a formal hierarchy with an informal hierarchy of charisma.