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Tricks to make yourself effortlessly charming

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Re: Tricks to make yourself effortlessly charming

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It's funny how some adjectives always seem to be followed by certain nouns, huh? I think about this whenever I heard about "bodies strewn on the street" on the news. Reading (and watching) seems to be compared to eating all the time: - I devoured that book - I binged that season Then there's that term, "consumption" which seemingly applies to every piece of media.

Similarly, I have observed 'abject' going with 'poverty', usually.

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Re: Tricks to make yourself effortlessly charming

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It's funny how some adjectives always seem to be followed by certain nouns, huh? I think about this whenever I heard about "bodies strewn on the street" on the news. Reading (and watching) seems to be compared to eating all the time: - I devoured that book - I binged that season Then there's that term, "consumption" which seemingly applies to every piece of media.

You're looking for the linguistic term 'collocation,' and these are good examples of idiomatic usage of English. Further, words located in proximity with each other is a big part of the distributional hypothesis: "you shall know a word by the company it keeps". This is in turn a key component of how language models like word2vec or GloVe can be effective.

https://prelectur.stanford.edu/lecturers/hofstadter/analogy....

Re: Tricks to make yourself effortlessly charming

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Maybe it’s because I’ve never been in that position, but I simply do not understand why you wouldn’t ask to have an attorney present for the questioning.

I don't exactly have an attorney on retainer or a generous "legal expenses" cost center.

You'll get a public defender.

Re: Tricks to make yourself effortlessly charming

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One tip mentioned is to raise your eyebrows. As example: when you first meet someone, raise your eyebrows slightly (or one), smile, and tilt your head and greet them. Making someone else feel special makes you charming. Along the same lines: I find that voice cadences, and inflection, work pretty well for being charming! Take time to enuncicate the whole sentence you want to say, throw emotion into your words. And if…

How grossly manipulative

Is it manipulative to attempt to invoke emotion in music as well? If not, what would be the difference?

Re: Tricks to make yourself effortlessly charming

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I don't exactly have an attorney on retainer or a generous "legal expenses" cost center.

You'll get a public defender.

Sorry, I don't closely follow this whole "don't talk to the police ever" thing- is this the case even when you're just refusing to talk to the police on the street without an attorney? Was always under the impression the right to publicly provided legal counsel mostly centered on an actual trial.

Re: Tricks to make yourself effortlessly charming

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This has the danger of someone rambling for like 10 minutes about some book and everyone else is just waiting for him/her to finish. I hate people who tell "stories" in big groups , so rude. I prefer quick back and forth where everyone gets a chance to speak. Lots of people overestimate how interesting their story is to other people. I want to know how to tell people who monopolize group discussion to shut the fuck u…

100% agree. There are members of my family that, if allowed to contribute a sentence, often go on to dominate the conversation for minutes, despite the very obvious boredom and displeasure of everyone else in the conversation. If you come up with an answer to how to tell a conversational monopolist to shut up... please, please share it. I usually just walk away, but that doesn't improve the situation for everyone els…

One thing that helps me is knowing that these people are Quality Time (according to the Five Love Languages book). Don't confuse Quality Conversation with Time. The best way to stop them is to identify the time that has gone by. I don't have perfect method yet.

Re: Tricks to make yourself effortlessly charming

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Maybe it’s because I’ve never been in that position, but I simply do not understand why you wouldn’t ask to have an attorney present for the questioning.

I feel like this is something people have to consciously practice and remind themselves of. I work for a civil liberties organization. Yet a few years ago two patrol officers in a train station in New York managed to interrogate me using a classic "good cop, bad cop" method -- about photographs that I was taking. I felt especially weird about this afterward because I had been reading news articles about people's lega…

Yeah I noticed the pets too, no doubt the FBI agents picked up her concern for it and used the situation to their advantage. Imagine if it was kids, friends or relatives.

"Sure don't have to talk to us, but keep in mind we can arrest you, and we don't want to do it, who knows what weirdos your kids might end up with..." "-Yeah sure let's talk..."

Re: Tricks to make yourself effortlessly charming

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I don't exactly have an attorney on retainer or a generous "legal expenses" cost center.

You don't need one on retainer. When they say one will be assigned, they're not kidding. They will get you one.

Isn't that means-tested?

Re: Tricks to make yourself effortlessly charming

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They're good, but the transcripts really demonstrate just how hopelessly naive RW is. She printed classified docs on her work printer, emailed them from her work email and then confessed to FBI agents without consulting a lawyer. It doesn't excuse what she did, of course, but it's clear she didn't grasp the gravity of her actions.

Maybe it’s because I’ve never been in that position, but I simply do not understand why you wouldn’t ask to have an attorney present for the questioning.

Because you will be afraid that if you don't comply they will treat you badly and maybe even take you to jail. You can see in the interview of RW that the FBI agents make it seem like they are just there to find out what happened and they say several times that they think she just made a mistake. They are doing that in order to get her to see them as allies in the search for the truth and to minimize the gravity of the situation. So, in a case like this she would probably be sitting there thinking "yeah it was a mistake I didn't want to do that at all I can't believe I made a mistake like that" which makes it all but impossible for her to halt the interview and request an attorney. In order to have asked for legal representation she would have had to see the gravity of the situation, which the FBI agents downplayed over and over as a trick.
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