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Why Online Dating Sucks for Men (2013)

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Re: Why Online Dating Sucks for Men (2013)

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Post by dbg31415 »

tracker1 wrote: post #31
dbg31415 wrote: post #17

I don't really agree with this article. I gave up on online dating a few years back, but as a guy I don't think it was all that bad. Someone said 1/50... I think it was closer to 1/5 women would respond. And look... if they don't respond, that's fine... it's nothing personal at that point. Women have to sift through the messages very quickly. Anyway my advice for making it not suck so much for guys: 1) Find a girl fr…

My responses were generally about 1 in 15. but the rest is generally good advice... that said, I can pick out my own clothes... some things I just like more than others... I was an artist/designer before a programmer, though it was a long time ago.

Fair... most guys don't know anything about clothing. I didn't until I lived with a woman for a bit. There's a science to picking the right clothing that flatters your body, matches your skin tone... all that... it was like calculus to hear someone try and explain it. I didn't have enough interest to learn it, so I just let someone else do it for me.

Re: Why Online Dating Sucks for Men (2013)

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Post by wavefunction »

pavel_lishin wrote: post #34
russellbeattie wrote: post #16

Someone needs to combine Vine with Tinder. A 2 second video of you saying hello, and you can only record via the app. This wouldn't change the general imbalance of dating, but it would help narrow down choices really quickly and maybe clear the backlog for women a bit.

Serious question: how do you solve the "oh, that's a penis" problem?

If machines watch the video first and see a penis -1 that thang

*aw dang beaten to th punch

Re: Why Online Dating Sucks for Men (2013)

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Post by xor1 »

pavel_lishin wrote: post #38
xor1 wrote: post #20

Didn't even realize this article was 4 years old until I started reading the comments. Dating apps are the ultimate hunting ground for individuals with borderline personality disorder. They provide an endless supply of one-night-stands and no-strings-attached sex, as well as playthings and victims when short-term and long-term relationships are desired.

Wait, it's impossible to enjoy one-night-stands and short-term relationships without having BPD?

I don't see how you inferred that from my post.

Re: Why Online Dating Sucks for Men (2013)

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Post by dbg31415 »

nether wrote: post #37
dbg31415 wrote: post #17

I don't really agree with this article. I gave up on online dating a few years back, but as a guy I don't think it was all that bad. Someone said 1/50... I think it was closer to 1/5 women would respond. And look... if they don't respond, that's fine... it's nothing personal at that point. Women have to sift through the messages very quickly. Anyway my advice for making it not suck so much for guys: 1) Find a girl fr…

But shirtless selfies work, if you have muscles. And copy-pasting messages also garner responses that lead to successful exchanges, that's why OkCupid chose not to ban them. How tall are you and what is your race? Those two metrics are greatest determinants of how many messages you receive as a man.

I didn't use OK Cupid... I thought it was just for hookups. I'm old though, we had Match and eHarmony 5-10 years ago.

Re: Why Online Dating Sucks for Men (2013)

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Post by pentae »

pavel_lishin wrote: post #34
russellbeattie wrote: post #16

Someone needs to combine Vine with Tinder. A 2 second video of you saying hello, and you can only record via the app. This wouldn't change the general imbalance of dating, but it would help narrow down choices really quickly and maybe clear the backlog for women a bit.

Serious question: how do you solve the "oh, that's a penis" problem?

Probably the same reason theres not too many penises on Tinder profiles - report button.

Re: Why Online Dating Sucks for Men (2013)

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Post by btgeekboy »

pavel_lishin wrote: post #34
russellbeattie wrote: post #16

Someone needs to combine Vine with Tinder. A 2 second video of you saying hello, and you can only record via the app. This wouldn't change the general imbalance of dating, but it would help narrow down choices really quickly and maybe clear the backlog for women a bit.

Serious question: how do you solve the "oh, that's a penis" problem?

The same way we "solve" it on every other platform: artificial intelligence combined with human intervention (i.e. a report button).

I don't see how making a short video is any different vs. uploading a handful of photos.

Re: Why Online Dating Sucks for Men (2013)

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Post by dbg31415 »

paulcole wrote: post #26

I'm a man and in my late 20's (currently mid-30's and been with my partner for a few years now) had a great time using OKCupid. I was able to average 2-3 dates per week and received replies to ~25% of my messages. Before anyone asks, I am average appearance. I don't drive (bicycle only). Things I had going in my favor: I'm white, had a flexible job (could meet whenever) and vegan diet (probably the biggest help as ve…

Good advice, all of it. And written in less space than what I just typed -- shorter means better. (=

Re: Why Online Dating Sucks for Men (2013)

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Post by [deleted] »

overcast wrote: post #33
peteretep wrote: post #15

Earlier quoted context omitted.

> women have less trouble finding > partners irl Sexual partners? No trouble at all. Life partners? Much trickier. Men have the sexual discernment of rabbits, but are pretty choosy about who they're willing to actually commit to. There's a non-trivial proportion of men who are only in their current relationships for easy access to sex. Men complain to their friends about not being able to get laid, women complain to…

fyi. There is no such thing as guys, and girls being friends. I know women think they have guy friends, but those are just guys that want to have sex with them. Consider this next time a female questions this line of thought. Would their best guy friend turn them down for sex, with the response of "I don't want to ruin our friendship", of course not.

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