I am not sure why cryonics are not in the menu of every reader here when he has the opportunity (you don't have it if you die in a sudden accident) to subscribe when it seems inevitable to die.
Not all of us want to live again in some unknown future without any sense of continuity or surviving relationships. Death is ultimately inevitable, even if a miracle like cryonics could postpone it the first time. The author's entire point is that we should accept this inevitability, not try to avoid it by any psychological means we can conjure. Only then can we respond appropriately.
Fighting Cancer
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#132This is a really important read. Nobody really gets terminal illness until you're either terminally ill, or right on the fringe of it. Even those of us who are one degree away from it only have the vaguest notion of it. It seems like something on the order of 30% of human prose ever written struggles with this notion of mortality [1], yet very few words are devoted to how to care about someone who is terminally ill,…
That might be your perspective but after being in hospitals and treatment for a lifetime condition, I saw enough of my peers die by the age of 10 that I think I have a pretty good handle on mortality. It's just a very uncomfortable subject, which I think hinges on our species not knowing "what happens" after the body dies. Well, there are lots of claims and plenty of options by way of choosing a faith, but I'm fairly…
Re: Fighting Cancer
#133Earlier quoted context omitted.
I have to agree with this. People can't be expected to know what every individual would prefer to hear in every conceivable circumstance. Platitudes are often an oblique way of saying "I empathize and I wish you the best" while not being discouraging. Actually saying the above might be preferable, but it's unfair to criticize the gesture, I think. If I mention this, it's because I think there are parallels to be draw…
It's absolutely fair to criticize the gesture. You know how SJW's tell outsiders to check their privilege when they make the discussion about themselves? Platitudes similarly make the discussion about themselves instead of the cancer patient. "Fight it." Wow, you're so optimistic! "Eat more fruit." You're so knowledgeable! Since you're a certified nutritionist, am I eating enough Quinoa? http://thelastpsychiatrist.co…
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#134Earlier quoted context omitted.
> What's really sad is that the state of progress in cancer treatment is extremely slow. This is massively false. There are great strides made for numerous cancers, while for some others (pancreatic, colorectal being among the worst) there are still not many good options. For pancreatic cancer the main issue is that it's very hard to detect in early stages and when you get the symptoms you are basically already in st…
If early detection can make a big difference, then clearly that is the low hanging fruit of cancer research.
For these reasons I'm not sure that it'll end up being a lower hanging fruit than vastly better treatment of late detected cancer for the kinds that are usually detected very late now.
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#135Earlier quoted context omitted.
Strange, from what I read (including interviews with oncologists) cancer treatment is massively improving, with new treatments available and many fundamental advances in the pipeline. The future is looking bright, with cancer becoming a manageable chronic illness in the next decades.
An oncologist gave a friend of mine the ridiculous opinion that there would be a cure for cancer within 5 years. That was 6 years ago. I say ridiculous because medicine is awash with similar predictions, the vast majority of which have never come true, or materialise far far later than anticipated. The future does indeed look bright... from the very specific perspective of the researchers. Unfortunately if you are so…
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#137Earlier quoted context omitted.
It's absolutely fair to criticize the gesture. You know how SJW's tell outsiders to check their privilege when they make the discussion about themselves? Platitudes similarly make the discussion about themselves instead of the cancer patient. "Fight it." Wow, you're so optimistic! "Eat more fruit." You're so knowledgeable! Since you're a certified nutritionist, am I eating enough Quinoa? http://thelastpsychiatrist.co…
Making the discussion about oneself means its not really a gesture to begin with. I agree with your example but I think it's a different thing altogether.
Plausible Deniability is why these gestures are socially acceptable. "I'm sorry to hear that" or "that sucks" (i.e. acknowledgment) would suffice. But that's not what Pieter Hintjens' associates told him, is it? Instead, they went the extra mile by offering unwarranted advice. Notice that "I'm sorry to hear that" doesn't connote that the speaker holds relevant information, and is therefore important and worth paying attention to. Regardless of how we define gesture, it is not lost on Hintjens that the stock phrases he receives nudge the conversation in a particular direction.
Re: Fighting Cancer
#138I found out I had colorectal cancer 4 years ago at 33. It was a shock because I go to the gym 4-5 times a week and taught brazilian jiu jitsu nightly. There no living right or living wrong prescription that will spare you. It can catch anyone at any time just like the author states. Aside from dealing with the disease, one of the biggest issues I found was disbursing information and managing the emotions of my friend…
Re: Fighting Cancer
#139This is a really important read. Nobody really gets terminal illness until you're either terminally ill, or right on the fringe of it. Even those of us who are one degree away from it only have the vaguest notion of it. It seems like something on the order of 30% of human prose ever written struggles with this notion of mortality [1], yet very few words are devoted to how to care about someone who is terminally ill,…
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#140Earlier quoted context omitted.
It is a really weird situation (I'm trying to put myself in your friends position). I guess I'd revert into this BS nice talk as a way to help you emotionally (even though I know it's BS). So -assuming that I do care and that situation makes me sad- what am I supposed to say? How could I really help?
A big hug, if they're the kind of person who likes hugs and you're close enough to hug. And not hiding your sadness while doing so. Or "I'm sorry to hear that. Is there anything I can do?" Or any general statement of empathy. I've been in a similar situation, and those were the best replies. But everyone is different, so I'd ask a few more people what were good responses. Probably whatever multiple people mention is…
> Or any general statement of empathy. I've been in a similar situation, and those were the best replies.
In a similar vein, "that sucks" seems appropriate.