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> To make the point less gender political, view this as something which happens to a same-sex couple, so that the dynamics are less obvious about sexual politics and more about either force, misinterpretation, or confusion or a mixture of all the above. I like your suggestion about viewing this as same-sex couple situation. I wrote my post specifically gender-neutral so as to prepare for the inevitable accusation of…
Though it's much rarer, it is possible for a woman to rape a man.
As has been pointed out, in England a woman cannot take a man, but can commit an act of penetration.
In the U.S. there is no such distinction.