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I do not think that's so trivial or 'binary' like it is often stated. Someone had asked a related question on the same OP thread: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=29240007 My r…

> I am not sure I agree with 3. Overall medicine is a very recent development. I am not sure what are the circumstances that would have enabled us to develop science and medicine s…

Adding to what bradlys has written. If we can fix the system, then no 'hopelessness' may anymore be involved. That's what we need to push for. As of now, the system for broken marr…

My situation has many similarities. I fully agree with your viewpoint.

To start with, I'll reiterate that I am not qualified enough here, and you seem to know more than me. :) Since you asked still, below is my current understanding: 1. Biological evo…

Thanks! I am not qualified enough to know a good answer either. Albeit I have alternative thoughts for some points you have made, you seem to know this better than I do.

I overall agree to what you have said. Marriage has positive impacts on children, and that's why love itself evolved. However, "marriage" as it stands today from a social and legal…

> men are financially better after divorce women worst. Does that take into account how much work both are putting in towards earning? Or it's just considering the net numbers? Wom…

Would I be correct in guessing that you have not faced such a situation yourself? My motivation for asking -- What you wrote is advice inexperienced people commonly give. It's noth…

Upvoting everything you have said. Feeling sorry for you too.

I'm adding to what bradlys has written in response. Women, marriage, love are different things. We should not let these be confused together. A push back against marriage is not sa…

Agreed. A question I have is if the STD issue mentioned still valid, as a motivation for monogamy?

Upvoted. Writing this here as I would give the same advice.

I am not sure if I have understood the question. I cannot disclose the detailed specifics of my case.

I had found some good ones in a local library and had read them there itself while taking off from work without telling my spouse. There was no opportunity for me take these home f…

> ... as victims when everyone around them knew it was a disaster from the beginning. I just don't understand how they get there unless they willingly ignore signs of bad behavior …

Per what I know and have read: The emotional aspects of love last about seven years. After that, pragmatics and mutual understanding need to take over. We have invented the notion …

Continuing in a separate comment: Advise for you and others: * Use social and legal provisions towards your own favor as much as possible whatever those are -- live-in relationship…

I am (trying) doing that all along, and there is no other option anyway. So the question you have is not really applicable. Notes on why one can't just 'not care' for mental health…

I am going through it right now too. Very short background: * Wife abusive from the beginning * Sexless marriage as she refused * Beating herself up for years * She's not earning (…

Thanks a lot for the helping hand!

Thanks. I'll look at these.

Thanks for the help and advice even if it's just reconfirming the understanding. There's more to it indeed as you guessed.

I'm looking for advice. I have been suffering for the last several years. The root cause of the problem is still there and cannot realistically go away easily [1]. I'm consulting w…