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Got through first 5 minutes and I already see that myself and the author have very different opinions on what constitutes "good code": 1) having data structure and its methods isol…

> Why is this such a big problem? These needs are not a problem. But not stating them clearly creates a problem, where you do what you think would help, but your needs are still no…

Please elaborate on what you consider "solid dating advice" and why.

> While I mostly agree with you, if someone acts like they don't want a relationship at all (or plays super hard to get), then I'll just move on to someone who does, because I don'…

You need a car to do what? Most commonly, to transport your body from point A to point B. You can also consider other alternatives and pick one that (you think) works the best. I d…

My point is not about how attraction works, it's about what people do about it. You can feel attraction and decide to act on it almost instantly, but that's still your choice and y…

Nope. Attraction is a nice thing to feel, but it's generally more satisfying if you act on it with conscious choice and not feel "forced" to do something just because you feel a ce…

Attraction sometimes is not a matter of choice, but actions are. You can decide to continue communication with someone or not. You're not a slave of your attraction.

I would argue that it's hard to build healthy relationship when you're _not_ okay being single. Needing a relationship to feel okay sets the ground for developing codependency, whi…

1) for me one of the merits of text communication is that it's asynchronous: there is a space to delay message processing for as long as recipient needs. Setting yourself to expect…