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Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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Post by pugworthy »

shawn-butler wrote: post #59

From a technical perspective why isn't this a solved problem? Identity will always be a difficult problem, but being able to own your own face / likeness by demonstrating it should be technically possible right? Forced visual "captchas" something like "please take a photo standing on one foot and your finger pointed at your nose" Then once you own your likeness with "faceID" likeness similarity isn't it then easy to…

I think there are some privacy issues here you're not addressing. Like exactly who gets to be the authority on face ID? What if it gets leaked or hacked?

Not to mention the near future triviality of image generating AI being able to just recreate what you're asking it for a "capchat". I mean once it figures out hands that is.

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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Post by zimpenfish »

autotune wrote: post #43
Waterluvian wrote: post #16

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Don’t sell yourself short. Perhaps your face, like mine, can be used kind of like the intentionally implausible stories of Nigerian scams.

My face looks too much like Jack Black to be taken seriously enough by a potential romance scam victim.

You'd be surprised how much thirst there is for Jack Black in certain corners of the internet. Admittedly a lot to do with his apparently genial nature and general goodness but still.

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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Post by ryandrake »

> “‘You shouldn’t have anything on social media. People are using your pictures.’ And I’m like, ‘Excuse me. I’m not gonna move to a deserted island or live my life as a monk. That’s just not gonna happen.’”

Not posting pictures of yourself online seems to be a pretty reasonable, sensible preventative measure for anyone. I don’t (to my knowledge) have pictures of myself floating around social media, and I don’t consider myself to be “living my life as a monk.”

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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Post by itronitron »

DoreenMichele wrote: post #45

My mind is blown. Even when the ruse is revealed, many victims are unwilling to let go. The truth triggers an emotional whiplash—the promise of a soulmate, a new, fulfilling life, and mutual trust is suddenly lost, leaving the intense feelings of love behind. Once found, the real man in the photos becomes a surrogate for the fantasy. “Some of them would reach out to me and [say], ‘Now that I know what the real person…

I rewatched the movie 'Jabberwocky' recently, which has as one of the comedic story elements one or more characters that are stuck in their own particular romantic view of the world.

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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Post by ChuckNorris89 »

dijit wrote: post #27
markus_zhang wrote: post #7

I have been constantly harrased by accounts with pretty girl pictures on LinkedIn, wish they could do something. Why did I know they are fake? One, I'm not handsome, neither do I work in those high status companies, why did they reach out to me? Two, they look more like models than software engineers. Completely bullshit.

I have noticed that a lot of tech recruiters are conventionally attractive women.

Because sex sells. Where you not aware of this by now? This has been proven to death by now.

And by sex I don't mean the copulation act, but just seeing very handsome and attractive people that trigger your primal mating desires, works in advertising when trying to convince people to buy something from you or give you something (a product, a service, an idea, their time, their money, their attention, their assistance, etc.)

It's why many recruiters, especially in tech, tend to be the attractive female type as it works well enough on the majority male demographic this career attracts.

And why most successful sales people, and to a large degree, managers who managed to climb 'the ladder', tend to be on the tall, athletic, attractive side.

This is completely anecdotal, but I've never ever seen conventionally short males in upper management in any company I worked at so far. It's as if it was a 'jocks club' and you needed the right physique to join.

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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Post by jack_pp »

rkagerer wrote: post #42

When I was growing up you never posted your photo online where strangers could see it. Earlier than that, it was also considered proper etiquette to ask before taking someone's photo. There's been a huge culture shift and some of the outcomes are disheartening but quite predictable. ...little recourse other than to continuously report fake profiles across social media platforms If they don't take down your fraudulent…

Considering how good face recognition is these days it would be nice to have legislation in place that you have to give explicit consent to any website in order to use your image. Govt can crawl the web and block websites from the countries ISP that don't comply. Hard to see another automated solution for this problem

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Post by whatshisface »

pcthrowaway wrote: post #65
RcouF1uZ4gsC wrote: post #3

Things I didn't realize I should be thankful for #2,500,231: My face will never ever be used for a romance scam.

Soon enough, DALL-E may be able to tweak any face to make it scam-worthy, and GPT will be able to complement it to pluck the heartstrings just so

It would be easier to start from scratch.

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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Post by hoseja »

not2b wrote: post #18
imwillofficial wrote: post #2

I know it’s sad and scary to get death threats. But having a gay guy have a wide following of women in love with him is hilarious

It doesn't surprise me. Especially among men over 40, on average gay men pay much more attention to their appearance, grooming, etc. than straight men, because men whether gay or straight tend to be more visually oriented than women and looks matter to the people they want to attract. Of course like any generalization there are many exceptions to this.

Women may take interest in pictures of a well-groomed gay man.

But they would absolutely NOT tolerate their partner actually spend more time fussing about his appearance than them. Instant ick. Feminine behaviour.

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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Post by BlargMcLarg »

MikePlacid wrote: post #58
DoreenMichele wrote: post #45

My mind is blown. Even when the ruse is revealed, many victims are unwilling to let go. The truth triggers an emotional whiplash—the promise of a soulmate, a new, fulfilling life, and mutual trust is suddenly lost, leaving the intense feelings of love behind. Once found, the real man in the photos becomes a surrogate for the fantasy. “Some of them would reach out to me and [say], ‘Now that I know what the real person…

> Time to retire Cinderella and similar stories. The article mentions Tindler Swindler, and I can vouch - it's a great film. It is an absolute puzzle at first, cause the man spares no money to trigger a Cinderella in the victims: real charter jet, real high-class hotel, real flowers and gifts. And she has 0 at her bank account - what the man that can burn more money in a day that she makes in a year may potentially w…

Yes and yes. We've done it in the past for millennia now, and we recognize some will not heed advice regardless. It's a battle between recognizing women are individual agents who can make mistakes and bear responsibility doing so, or seeing them more akin to children.

Frankly, it's a necessity given the opposite is either stripping away rights (no humanitarian person is in favor of that) or somehow squashing every would-be predator (good luck doing that without a massive false positive population). We already see the latter happening today and many are unhappy about it.

The same is answered to people in similar situations the moment they become adults. Either we revisit all of that or keep the status quo.

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