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Beware of the perfect gentleman

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Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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I know it’s sad and scary to get death threats. But having a gay guy have a wide following of women in love with him is hilarious

> But having a gay guy have a wide following of women in love with him is hilarious

Women loved Rock Hudson. I think there are a number of gay women stars that are quite popular with men.

Social media is very weird. People can have entire friendships, romances, and work relationships, without meeting the other person. I had a friend whose wife left him for an online relationship. She got to the other state, met the guy (it was not a scam), and then things didn't work out. By then, however, it was too late.

Best thing that could have happened to him. He's been happily married to another person for many years.

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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For me, the most fascinating part is about women refusing to accept they've been scammed or wanting a relationship with the men whose pictures were stolen, even though some of them are gay. It is quite similar to cult followers like QAnon. They want to believe desperately on what is comforting discarding what is reasonable. My Brazilian family of Bolsonaro supporters camping in front of barracks demanding a coup-d'et…

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Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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I have been constantly harrased by accounts with pretty girl pictures on LinkedIn, wish they could do something. Why did I know they are fake? One, I'm not handsome, neither do I work in those high status companies, why did they reach out to me? Two, they look more like models than software engineers. Completely bullshit.

Those are just the auditors; the audit firms send charismatic and attractive people around so that the people whose work they're checking will let their guard down.

Also pen test teams will use halo effect when it's an option.

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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post #10

I have been constantly harrased by accounts with pretty girl pictures on LinkedIn, wish they could do something. Why did I know they are fake? One, I'm not handsome, neither do I work in those high status companies, why did they reach out to me? Two, they look more like models than software engineers. Completely bullshit.

Those are just the auditors; the audit firms send charismatic and attractive people around so that the people whose work they're checking will let their guard down.

Not really, the title is usually something like a tech consultant with completely BS educational and career experience. But I do agree it could be red team but they are annoying as hell. Actually lemme show you one:

https://www.linkedin.com/mwlite/in/ellie-fang-411900257

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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Things I didn't realize I should be thankful for #2,500,231: My face will never ever be used for a romance scam.

Don’t sell yourself short. Perhaps your face, like mine, can be used kind of like the intentionally implausible stories of Nigerian scams.

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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The woman calling the guy her fiance is pretty sad and a total failure on her parents' behalf. You dont get engaged with or attempt to marry someone you've never met in person.

There's a good Netflix documentary about Manti Te'o, the football player who famously got catfished while he was playing at Notre Dame. It made national news when his "girlfriend" passed away. He seemed to have a good upbringing, it's wild what gullible or desperate people can get sucked into.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manti_Te'o#Catfishing_incident

Untold: The Girlfriend Who Didn't Exist https://www.netflix.com/title/81580141

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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I know it’s sad and scary to get death threats. But having a gay guy have a wide following of women in love with him is hilarious

It doesn't surprise me. Especially among men over 40, on average gay men pay much more attention to their appearance, grooming, etc. than straight men, because men whether gay or straight tend to be more visually oriented than women and looks matter to the people they want to attract. Of course like any generalization there are many exceptions to this.

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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I have been constantly harrased by accounts with pretty girl pictures on LinkedIn, wish they could do something. Why did I know they are fake? One, I'm not handsome, neither do I work in those high status companies, why did they reach out to me? Two, they look more like models than software engineers. Completely bullshit.

Linkedin+Glassdoor lets you target marks based on approximate salary.

Re: Beware of the perfect gentleman

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post #19

I have been constantly harrased by accounts with pretty girl pictures on LinkedIn, wish they could do something. Why did I know they are fake? One, I'm not handsome, neither do I work in those high status companies, why did they reach out to me? Two, they look more like models than software engineers. Completely bullshit.

Linkedin+Glassdoor lets you target marks based on approximate salary.

Oh that's nice to know...but to what end?
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