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When Having Friends Is More Alluring Than Being Right

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Re: When Having Friends Is More Alluring Than Being Right

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Are we witnessing the birth of a new idea, something like "there is no right or wrong if it hurts people's feelings"? will "non binary truth" emerge as law? You have the right to say anything that's wrong, and nobody can say it's wrong because that would be discriminatory, but if you say something that's right, nobody should say it's right because it would be binary thinking and discriminating? yet you can say it's w…

If this happens, I'm seriously going to consider suicide.

I don't want to live in a world where I have to live in a constant state of doublethink in order to avoid offending some rare snowflake.

Re: When Having Friends Is More Alluring Than Being Right

#72

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Are you suggesting men don't have the right to stand up against abuse?

I am not

Then are you saying it's wrong for men to be activists in support of their rights?

Maybe you can clarify your previous statement some.

The only rights I've seen or heard people being "men's activists" for (which seem to include a lot of women too) is regarding abuses against men.

Re: When Having Friends Is More Alluring Than Being Right

#73

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Yeah, I don’t like how the term “men’s rights advocate” is thrown around. Maybe some groups that use that term are crazy or something but men deserve rights and advocates for those rights. Men are often treated as second class citizens. People laughing at that is senseless.

Men are politically, economically, and socially dominant in pretty much every society on Earth, though there are a few where that has been reduced so that women are near parity. Advocating for “Men’s rights” pretty much anywhere on Earth is like advocating for “White rights” or “Christisn rights” in the USA (and, in fact, there's substantial overlap between those groups.)

I don’t understand what you’re getting at. The law should be universal and impartial. Clearly citizens should fight for their personal rights male or female. The majority can be oppressed and they should protect their rights as well as a minority group. The two aren’t at odds with each other. In fact if anyone’s rights are tread on we all suffer.

Re: When Having Friends Is More Alluring Than Being Right

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post #38

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There is a fine line as most people don't have very good conversation skill's and will use you as a surrogate to a psychologist. You have to pull them in line with eye contact and silence and then giving them the benefit of the doubt, and finally have to say they're in a conversation/discussion. If that all else fails then you leave the conversation.

I totally agree. I also think there is a huge selfishness in allowing yourself to be used as a surrogate to a psychologist. Just because you are lonely due to not figuring out the other things yourself, doesn't mean you should play doctor to feel fulfilled.

Do you mean selfishness or low self-wroth? Selfishness is that you're doing it because you only care about yourself and not the other person (In that case you would be talking about yourself). Low self-worth is where you believe you're view point and genuine experiences are lesser than the other person.

Re: When Having Friends Is More Alluring Than Being Right

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> "And if it was just flat-earthers, I’d say fine, it’s harmless. But you’ve got anti-vaxxers and Men’s Rights Advocates and anti-global warming folks and TERFs and incels out there, all fueled by one central pivot point of humanity – namely, that it’s lonely being wrong." It seems quite odd that he lumps "Mens rights advocates" in there. Are they crazy?

> It seems quite odd that he lumps "Mens rights advocates" in there. Are they crazy? Crazy or not, MRA invariably is grounded in a worldview as at odds with facts as climate denialism or anti-vaxx advocacy. (Honestly, I think TERFs and incels, who are not categorically factually delusional, are the ones that don't fit, though it's possible the use of “wrong” was meant to encompass not only factual delusion but also w…

Here are some relevant facts:

Boys are far more likely to be medicated, punished, or expelled from school and as a result of that lifelong inequality, only 40% of college students are men.

Women receive 97% of alimony and win custody 80% of the time.

Men are far more likely to be prosecuted or convicted when accused of a crime.

90% of prisoners, 70% of homeless people, and 75% of suicides are men.

Why would you think speaking about things like this is comparable to being anti-vaxx?

Re: When Having Friends Is More Alluring Than Being Right

#76

Are we witnessing the birth of a new idea, something like "there is no right or wrong if it hurts people's feelings"? will "non binary truth" emerge as law? You have the right to say anything that's wrong, and nobody can say it's wrong because that would be discriminatory, but if you say something that's right, nobody should say it's right because it would be binary thinking and discriminating? yet you can say it's w…

If this happens, I'm seriously going to consider suicide. I don't want to live in a world where I have to live in a constant state of doublethink in order to avoid offending some rare snowflake.

Hint: it's not happening everywhere in the world, it's a western world thing.

Re: When Having Friends Is More Alluring Than Being Right

#77
post #42

> "And if it was just flat-earthers, I’d say fine, it’s harmless. But you’ve got anti-vaxxers and Men’s Rights Advocates and anti-global warming folks and TERFs and incels out there, all fueled by one central pivot point of humanity – namely, that it’s lonely being wrong." It seems quite odd that he lumps "Mens rights advocates" in there. Are they crazy?

Are you familiar with the men's rights movement? The term or concept of "men's rights" could certainly be discussed in a neutral, non-crazy way. But the actual movement as it exists today and the logic that commonly defines it is absolutely as detached from reality as any of those other cult-like ideologies.

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Re: When Having Friends Is More Alluring Than Being Right

#78

Sadly, being wrong DOES affect others. My fellow citizens vote and I am compelled by the laws they enact. Every friendly attempt to alter their worldview is ignored and every unfriendly attempt drives them further into a rabbit-hole of unreason. I'm left with only one choice- to isolate myself from the consequences of their actions, either forcing them out of my world, or leaving them in theirs. and that's why I don'…

How do you know it's not you who's wrong? Do you have access to secret information that they don't? Do you have superior intellect that enables you to understand what they can't? Or did you just happen to be exposed to different influences during your life that led your beliefs in a different arbitrary direction?

Re: When Having Friends Is More Alluring Than Being Right

#79
post #42

> "And if it was just flat-earthers, I’d say fine, it’s harmless. But you’ve got anti-vaxxers and Men’s Rights Advocates and anti-global warming folks and TERFs and incels out there, all fueled by one central pivot point of humanity – namely, that it’s lonely being wrong." It seems quite odd that he lumps "Mens rights advocates" in there. Are they crazy?

Are you familiar with the men's rights movement? The term or concept of "men's rights" could certainly be discussed in a neutral, non-crazy way. But the actual movement as it exists today and the logic that commonly defines it is absolutely as detached from reality as any of those other cult-like ideologies.

Do you have any specific examples of what you mean?

Because being angry that Cardi B is still welcome among the Hollywood and Washington elite after admitting to drugging and robbing people (men, specifically) doesn't seem crazy at all.

Nor does concern for child grooms (boys forced into marriage at 12 years old).

Or a divorced father upset that his children are being taken away by the mother in violation of the custody agreement.

(Those are the top posts of r/mensrights right now.)

Re: When Having Friends Is More Alluring Than Being Right

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post #34

Earlier quoted context omitted.

None of MRAs, TERFs, or Incels should be listed there. They don't hold beliefs about nature that can be judged as wrong. They just want things. But the author is apparently too entrenched in his political camp to see the difference between "enemy" and "wrong".

The article is not about judging a belief right or wrong on any scientific basis, it's about the phenomenon of people sidelining logic in exchange for inclusion.

What's the logic that any of them are sidelining?
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