Being able to "level with someone" who is not like you is a learnable skill. Given the studied and demonstrable bias towards cultural (
human culture, not "tech culture"), racial, and gender similarity when selecting for fit, not doing so, and contributing to continued disparities and injustices within this industry and society at large, is immoral and unethical and you should stop.
And it's foolish besides. You would "enjoy" talking to me, so long as I cared to play the game you want to play. There's no reason for that to continue once I've got the job (though at this point in my career I don't need to play your as monkey).
The third rail in these discussions is that, in tech, it is very likely that I also look like you and it is very likely that I speak similarly enough to you. I get a free pass for a lot of things from that. My lack of "culture fit" is by choice, because I think tech culture is a tire fire of gross mentalities and I don't mind criticizing it. Others have an uphill slog that is not of their choice.