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Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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Post by rkk3 »

spywaregorilla wrote: post #197
paulnpace wrote: post #174

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Of these, the sperm count strikes me as more causal, while the others may be results of some problem. Granted, the decline in sperm count is caused by something, but in relation to impact on behaviors, the decline will cause (as proxy) changes, and of those changes could be the increased medication, for example.

Sperm count dropping is caused by obesity

My understanding is that obesity is a factor but not wholly explanatory, especially because there are documented sperm count declines in other species (Dogs)

Re: Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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Post by spywaregorilla »

rkk3 wrote: post #221
spywaregorilla wrote: post #197

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Sperm count dropping is caused by obesity

My understanding is that obesity is a factor but not wholly explanatory, especially because there are documented sperm count declines in other species (Dogs)

Dog obesity has more than doubled since 2007 based on the first google result I could fine.

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Post by globular-toast »

Throwaway8373 wrote: post #59
hiran88 wrote: post #9

From my perspective and direct experience, it’s widespread porn use, which has extremely detrimental effects on your dopamine system, which leads to something you might term ‘lack of charisma, confidence and vital energy’, which leads to less people having sex due to confidence/charisma issues and lack of any drive. By my experience and observation, porn is really bad for oneself, and it’s really addicting. I’m a mil…

Not as much porn use as very regular ejaculation. I have started to look into sexuality and tantra, and it really seems like there are some effects people will only see after 5-6 days abstinence. And yes, the added energy will definitely also make men more willing to do the hunt, if they don't ejaculate 2 times a day. Porn, however, seems to be the enabler of so much ejaculation. Then again: The risk / unknowns of ge…

In my last long-term relationship, in the first year I stopped using porn completely as I was completely satisfied with sex. As time went on sex with the same partner becomes less exciting, even if you love them. By year 3 I found sometimes I would not be excited enough for fulfilling sex (I'm a mid-30s man). What I found was that watching porn improved this a lot. It made me excited again, but I still ejaculated exclusively into my partner. It wasn't that I would think about porn during sex or anything either. It just caused me to see her in a different light somehow. But if I got carried away and ejaculated while watching porn it was over for at least 2-3 days. Completely dead sex drive. So yeah, I've come to agree that it's ejaculating while watching porn that is the real bad thing. Porn itself I think can be bad too, but for other reasons.

Re: Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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Post by globular-toast »

malfist wrote: post #109
Throwaway8373 wrote: post #59

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Not as much porn use as very regular ejaculation. I have started to look into sexuality and tantra, and it really seems like there are some effects people will only see after 5-6 days abstinence. And yes, the added energy will definitely also make men more willing to do the hunt, if they don't ejaculate 2 times a day. Porn, however, seems to be the enabler of so much ejaculation. Then again: The risk / unknowns of ge…

> the added energy will definitely also make men more willing to do the hunt You know this sounds creepy right? Misogynistic? Women are more than trophies to be won in a hunt. They're people, just like you and I.

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Re: Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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Post by disambiguation »

This article is extensive but surprisingly doesn't discuss religion at all, which we know has been in steep decline in the west.

While not specific to young people, it seems birth rates are strongly correlated to religiosity.

> Model 1 confirms that women for whom religion is important in daily life have higher fertility intentions (table 4). Compared to non-religious women, who intend two children on average, women for whom religion is somewhat important intend 0.31 additional children and women for whom religion is very important in daily life intend 0.69 additional children.

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2723861/

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Post by achenatx »

halo37253 wrote: post #141
rglullis wrote: post #138

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> Don't complain about me using my little amount of free time to blow off steam when I'm brining home 3x your wage. And this, my friends, is what you get for giving way to a culture of hyper-individualization and materialism.

When it comes to your kids, everyone should want to set them up for life. My goal even from a young age before kids was to build generational wealth. We live in a world where money makes a big difference in lifestyle. Living Paycheck to Paycheck is a shitty way to live life. I did plenty of that early in life, and grew up in a house hold that lived paycheck to paycheck. I don't want that for my kids.

I strongly disagree with this. Setting them up for life is actually setting them up for failure. The great thing is every family gets to make their own choices!

My parents are millionaires and they havent given me anything post undergraduate. There were times I was desperate for money (e.g. to make payroll) and they wouldnt bend. They said you will find a way and be a stronger person for it. They were right.

My whole life I knew that all my parents' money was going to my disabled brother and so I haven't planned for it and am fine.

True happiness comes from within, not from material goods (beyond basic food and shelter).

What my parents did give me were the tools and education to know how to not live paycheck to paycheck. It doesnt matter how much money you make, it matters how much you save. When I was in grad school (90s) I made about 12K/year and saved about 2K/year. I did get myself into credit card trouble early on but dug myself out and then had a surplus.

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Post by malfist »

globular-toast wrote: post #224
malfist wrote: post #109

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> the added energy will definitely also make men more willing to do the hunt You know this sounds creepy right? Misogynistic? Women are more than trophies to be won in a hunt. They're people, just like you and I.

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Re: Why are young people having so little sex? (2018)

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Post by relaxation »

PaulHoule wrote: post #175
halo37253 wrote: post #172

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Sex is a process, its the foreplay and the physical goodness. Yeah of course it is fun, and makes your body hurt the next day. But it is a process, and spending 30 minuets to do something I can rub out in a few minuets isn't always worth it. I am tired, and rest is not an option. Even when you go on vacation, you are not resting. You are working to allow your kids to have fun. You come home more tired than when you l…

If you're not having sex this attitude is part of the reason why.

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Post by dang »

globular-toast wrote: post #224
malfist wrote: post #109

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> the added energy will definitely also make men more willing to do the hunt You know this sounds creepy right? Misogynistic? Women are more than trophies to be won in a hunt. They're people, just like you and I.

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> yours sounds like you're either a woman or a virgin

WTF? We ban accounts that post like this. No more of this, please.

https://news.ycombinator.com/newsguidelines.html

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