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Re: Best way to handle interviewer asking me out on a date after tech screen?

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Post by borski » Fri, Mar 13, 2015, 5:22 PM UTC

justin66 wrote: post #209

borski wrote: post #202

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So, hypothetically, if we were to believe in fate and love at first sight (humor me here), your suggestion is that an interviewer that has passed on a candidate through a rigorous interview process with multiple interviewers where everyone said no for the same (or different) valid reasons... Simply accept the fact that he will never be able to date his "one and only?" That he won't ever even be able to see "what coul…

I'll repeat: If it were okay to ask a job candidate out after an interview, the incentive for an unscrupulous interviewer who encounters an attractive candidate is to scuttle the interview so he can ask the candidate out later on. You haven't engaged that statement at all so I wonder why you responded to me.

My point was that if everyone else is positive on the interviewee, it should be very hard for the single interviewer to 'scuttle' the interview. And if everyone else is negative on the candidate, this is irrelevant.

Re: Best way to handle interviewer asking me out on a date after tech screen?

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Post by marrs » Tue, Mar 17, 2015, 4:37 PM UTC

ddoolin wrote: post #128

pyrocat wrote: post #109

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It's making an advance for the eventual goal of sex. How is that not a sexual advance? How is an email chain between interviewee and interviewer, discussing your interview results, not a professional setting?

People go to GREAT lengths for the "eventual goal of sex" all the time without it being labeled a sexual advance, including striking up what may seem like friendly conversation even though you may never have the slightest idea that their end game was actually to screw you (among many other things). Arguably the majority of anything that people do is for the eventual goal of sex. The e-mail "later that evening" was no…

    People go to GREAT lengths for the "eventual goal of sex"

Like get married

Re: Best way to handle interviewer asking me out on a date after tech screen?

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Post by marrs » Tue, Mar 17, 2015, 4:52 PM UTC

ihsw wrote: post #160

AnimalMuppet wrote: post #134

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It seems to me that informing HR, and telling him no (and why) is enough. I most certainly would not initiate a lawsuit over something like this. It was inappropriate and unprofessional; don't respond with something over the top, which is unprofessional in a different way. But I'm male, and have literally never been harassed at work over anything (not gender, age, race, religion, sexual orientation, facial hair, choi…

Indeed, I'm not advocating filing a lawsuit, however notifying his employer of the situation does carry risk of retaliation.

She's already lost the job and it's not like they're going to publicise her grievance. I really can't see what risk there is to her of raising the issue. If I was her I'd also ask for their company policy on this sort of behaviour.