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A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

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Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

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Post by brianlash »

tptacek wrote: post #84

Tom, Dan seems like just an impossibly awesome guy. http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=392341 http://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=338357 I'm so sorry for the loss. Dan, I hope it was an adventure. Peace be with you.

I recall reading the anecdote at the first link. Without looking I wouldn't have remembered it was from Dan, or even that it was about Ticketstumbler, but I would have recalled the story.

That would happen over and over if I (we) were to sift through Dan's comments. He was such a selfless YC'er - we've gleaned so much from his activity here - but time tends to muddy the origin of ideas. It's like we know what we've learned, but we don't always recall where we learned it. I think it's for that reason I'm reluctant to read through his old stuff; I know I would discover Dan as the origin of so many thought-provoking entries we've been so fortunate to count on across his time here.

His was a tremendous contribution. The impact of this loss is equally so.

To his loved ones and family, to Tom, to my fellow news.yc'rs, I'm sorry.

Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

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Post by revorad »

someonesad wrote: post #102

You know.... I am crying now. Death seems to glaze at me every time I start wasting my life again. I know that this is stupid, but I just can't help it. I am terribly sorry. Really. The funny thing is that I don't even know this guy - but I really like him. Nietzsche said that suicide thoughts are a wonderful comfort - they help us get through a lot of bad nights... and you know, today - right now, actually - it feel…

I know how you feel mate. Just hold on and share a nice moment with someone. Often, that's enough to bring back the zest for life.

Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

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Post by frossie »

physcab wrote: post #77
cperciva wrote: post #61

Earlier quoted context omitted.

the way I found him I didn't realize until seeing this that you were the person who found him. Please don't be afraid to seek counselling if you have flashbacks / nightmares / difficulty sleeping / etc -- post-traumatic stress disorder is very commonly experienced by those who find suicide victims.

Maybe its just me, but there seems to be a stigma regarding the act of seeking counseling. However, people should seek counseling just as often as they would a general practitioner as the mind needs just as much care to stay healthy as does the body. In any case, it's immensely gratifying to have someone who you know will not feel burdened by your issues and can offer you guidance through a very troublesome period of…

there seems to be a stigma regarding the act of seeking counseling

God no - there is a stigma associated with various things that cause people to seek counseling (justifiably or no)- but this sure isn't one of them.

I'm very sorry for all involved.

Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

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Post by TeHCrAzY »

speby wrote: post #20
tdavis wrote: post #18

Earlier quoted context omitted.

No. Nobody suspected anything including me, family, friends, and his girlfriend

Yeah, there's a lot of questions and wonder about how someone like Dan, who just... seemed fine and happy (perhaps on the outside), could bring himself to make such a terrible and extreme choice. It's a puzzle that, despite my only knowing him personally to a limited degree, that I may never understand.

Wouldn't you think that if people hide simple emotions like anger or irritation, that they would hide something far more insidious and serious?

Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

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Post by jeremymims »

Dan was my friend. And as far as I know, I was the last YC guy to visit Dan and Tom in Boston. And it breaks my heart. It just breaks it in a million pieces for a million reasons.

Dan was generous, and kind, and smart in the way that we all hope to be. He was the kind of person that would stand in front of a group of powerful venture capitalists and say "we don't need your money." He was a true inspiration.

We lost one of us and we lost one of our best. Please, please take the time to reach out to everyone you know who feels lonely or alone and let them know you care. God knows I wish I had. I wish I had realized.

And if you knew Dan, please take some time to say "fuck you" to the powers that be. He'd smile.

We will miss you dearly.

Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

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Post by brianchesky »

One year ago, I met Dan when we were applying to Y-Combinator. We were contemplating entering YC, and reached out to Dan for advice. After a few conversations, we were convinced.

Part of our decision to join YC was because of the community, and this was in no small measure influenced by our experiences with Dan. Since then, we have kept in touch, sharing ideas and war stories.

Dan played a brief but influential role in the Airbnb story, and an even greater influence in my life as one of the warmest introductions to the startup community one could ever imagine.

Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

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Post by shiranaihito »

physcab wrote: post #77
cperciva wrote: post #61

Earlier quoted context omitted.

the way I found him I didn't realize until seeing this that you were the person who found him. Please don't be afraid to seek counselling if you have flashbacks / nightmares / difficulty sleeping / etc -- post-traumatic stress disorder is very commonly experienced by those who find suicide victims.

Maybe its just me, but there seems to be a stigma regarding the act of seeking counseling. However, people should seek counseling just as often as they would a general practitioner as the mind needs just as much care to stay healthy as does the body. In any case, it's immensely gratifying to have someone who you know will not feel burdened by your issues and can offer you guidance through a very troublesome period of…

True. Without the stigma, you could call it getting help.

Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

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Post by Tichy »

megaduck wrote: post #86
bprater wrote: post #26

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Depression is an incredibly insidious disease folks, especially because sufferers normally keep it hidden from others. Some days you can feel completely fine, have amazing connections with people, love your work, be a completely present and loving parent and spouse. And on really bad days, it feels like the sky has completely collapsed on you and that the only logical thing to do is make the world a better place by l…

Amen. All good advice. One of the truly insidious things about depression is that the sufferer often knows that it's just brain chemistry, that it's just "all in their head". That doesn't help. Depression is not a sign of personal weakness, misguided thinking, or flawed character. It's a medical condition, like diabetes or glaucoma. There shouldn't be any moral judgement attached. There's still a hell of a lot that w…

"it's just brain chemistry, that it's just "all in their head"

I don't think that is true in general, except in the most trivial sense (that everything is just chemistry).

Maybe there are some diseases where the chemistry is disturbed and it makes you feel depressed. But there are a lot of "natural" causes for depression, too.

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