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A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

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Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

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I'd been going through his comments here...

http://news.ycombinator.com/threads?id=fallentimes

It's actually a great read. I didn't know him personally but as someone who knew him well enough to recognize his user name I'm saddened by this. The last thing the world needs is fewer smart people who honestly speak their minds.

Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

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Tom here. I am exhausted so pardon the informality and lack of feeling. Questions, etc. please contact me. Paul has a note that he's going to be posting on the YC blog at some point; try to keep discussion to one post, for my sanity. I will be keeping an eye on stuff and answering questions where possible. tom@ts also gtalk

http://ycombinator.com/dan.html

Did you add the 5px row of black in remembrance of Dan?

Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

#83
So sorry to hear this tragedy. My condolences go out to all those involved. Another reminder of how fragile life is and how important it is for us to live our lives to the fullest in memory of those we have lost. We also need to help and show our sincere love and support for all those suffering from depression, anxiety, or anything for that matter. My hope is that Dan's time on earth spreads contagious loving memories which inspire all of us to live our lives with love, modesty, and empathy.

Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

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Suicide.

Depression is an incredibly insidious disease folks, especially because sufferers normally keep it hidden from others. Some days you can feel completely fine, have amazing connections with people, love your work, be a completely present and loving parent and spouse. And on really bad days, it feels like the sky has completely collapsed on you and that the only logical thing to do is make the world a better place by l…

Amen. All good advice.

One of the truly insidious things about depression is that the sufferer often knows that it's just brain chemistry, that it's just "all in their head". That doesn't help.

Depression is not a sign of personal weakness, misguided thinking, or flawed character. It's a medical condition, like diabetes or glaucoma. There shouldn't be any moral judgement attached.

There's still a hell of a lot that we don't know about depression. However, there are treatments that help. If you suffer from depression, one of the best things you can do is to find a psychiatrist (an honest-to-god M.D.) that you can trust and work with.

And if you know someone that suffers from depression, bprater is absolutely correct. 100%. Offering someone that kind of support may be more important than you know.

Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

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I apologize in advance if this question is intrusive but is there any possibility it could have been an accident? Sometimes the line can be blurry. Accidental suicides do happen. Especially since there was no note.

Unfortunately, the way I found him pretty much rules that out. I'm foregoing description to be kind to family and friends, but it wasn't something you accidently do. A couple minor things he did directly beforehand which would seem completely innocuous to everybody but me also gives me confidence in the conclusion.

A few years ago a very close friend of mine killed himself. Reading this today has brought up a lot of old feelings, and one new one; I feel like I really need to reach out and tell you that what you're going through and what you're about to go through will be very difficult, but you will come out the other side.

Suicide is one of those things that I don't think we can ever reconcile in our minds. I've never resolved the questions raised up by my friend's death, but I promise that you do learn to find a quiet place for the feelings that I'd imagine have you mentally turning in dizzy circles right now.

My thoughts are with you. If you'd like to talk please don't hesitate to get in touch.

Take care, Emmanuel.

Re: A terrible tragedy: Dan Haubert of Ticketstumbler (fallentimes) has passed away

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Depression is an incredibly insidious disease folks, especially because sufferers normally keep it hidden from others. Some days you can feel completely fine, have amazing connections with people, love your work, be a completely present and loving parent and spouse. And on really bad days, it feels like the sky has completely collapsed on you and that the only logical thing to do is make the world a better place by l…

You keep it hidden because for every 1 person who takes your advice and helps you out there are 5 who will write you off as a serious person for the rest of your life. Edit: I'm not saying this is right/wrong, but there are real consequences to outing oneself as a depressive.

This is true not just for depression, but really for anyone who experiences (by choice or not) reality in a non consensus way-- autistics, women, pot smokers, gays, etc. The fact that this is such a problem is a huge failure of science; pretty much to science what pedophilia is to the church, except that because the issue is epistemological it's going to take more than a change in leadership to make the problem go away.
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