The essential problem here is that we're still talking about men telling women what they need to do. Because, hey it's their problem. Let's just get it clear, it is all about what we (men) need to do. Slavery wasn't an African person's fault. Xenophobia isn't a problem for foreigners to sort out. There is nothing wrong with realising that we have a privilege over another group in society and making efforts to become…
There's wide disagreement about whether men should be getting involved in feminist projects. The concern is that men will dominate those as well.
The overwhelming majority of men wouldn't want to participate anyway, because they benefit from the way things are now.