Earlier quoted context omitted.
Dude I absolutely love being alone and "liberation", "freedom", and gaining "control" all resonate with me. No idea what "manifestation of an avoidant personality" means. "Relaxing", "exciting", and "interesting also apply. I do know that I'm terrible in a team and prefer working alone.
You sort of proved his point. Your preference for working alone is because you avoid being in a team.
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Re: The power of lonely: What we do better without other people around
#12 In those critical years I learned how to be alone. [But even] this
formulation doesn’t really capture my meaning. I didn’t, in any
literal sense, learn to be alone, for the simple reason that this
knowledge had never been unlearned during my childhood. It is a basic
capacity in all of us from the day of our birth. However these three
years of work in isolation [1945-1948], when I was thrown onto my own
resources, following guidelines which I myself had spontaneously
invented, instilled in me a strong degree of confidence, unassuming
yet enduring in my ability to do mathematics, which owes nothing to
any consensus or to the fashions which pass as law. By this I mean
to say: to reach out in my own way to the things I wished to learn,
rather than relying on the notions of the consensus, overt or tacit,
coming from a more or less extended clan of which I found myself a
member, or which for any other reason laid claim to be taken as an
authority. This silent consensus had informed me both at the lycee
and at the university, that one shouldn’t bother worrying about
what was really meant when using a term like “volume” which
was “obviously self-evident”, “generally known,” “in
problematic” etc... it is in this gesture of ”going beyond to be
in oneself rather than the pawn of a consensus, the refusal to stay
within a rigid circle that others have drawn around one -- it is in
this solitary act that one finds true creativity. All others things
follow as a matter of course.
Since then I’ve had the chance in the world of mathematics that
bid me welcome, to meet quite a number of people, both among my
“elders” and among young people in my general age group who were
more brilliant, much more ‘gifted’ than I was. I admired the
facility with which they picked up, as if at play, new ideas, juggling
them as if familiar with them from the cradle -- while for myself I
felt clumsy, even oafish, wandering painfully up an arduous track,
like a dumb ox faced with an amorphous mountain of things I had to
learn (so I was assured) things I felt incapable of understanding
the essentials or following through to the end. Indeed, there was
little about me that identified the kind of bright student who wins
at prestigious competitions or assimilates almost by sleight of hand,
the most forbidding subjects.
In fact, most of these comrades who I gauged to be more brilliant
than I have gone on to become distinguished mathematicians. Still
from the perspective of thirty or thirty five years, I can state
that their imprint upon the mathematics of our time has not been
very profound. They’ve done all things, often beautiful things in
a context that was already set out before them, which they had no
inclination to disturb. Without being aware of it, they’ve remained
prisoners of those invisible and despotic circles which delimit the
universe of a certain milieu in a given era. To have broken these
bounds they would have to rediscover in themselves that capability
which was their birthright, as it was mine: The capacity to be alone.Re: The power of lonely: What we do better without other people around
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#15I don't know about everyone else, but I do my best work alone. Of course, there does need to be a balance, and reference to others, and having others show up to confirm or criticize the work helps. Personally I think there is way to much "social" stuff going on in our society and this is detrimental to real work and innovation taking place. But then again, the choice between bad company and no company is often real t…
I actually had a rather interesting experience last night where an "outsider's perspective" ended up being the exact insight I needed.
My roommate stepped outside to socialize with me while I was repairing my Mustang: which has been having intermittent ignition problems since we replaced the ignition control module 6 months ago.
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To set the stage: this module bolts to a plate on the intake manifold. One of the bolts is used as an electrical ground. Unfortunately we had broken this bolt in removing the original module.
Furthermore the back of the unit uses the manifold as a sort of heatsink. So that missing bolt was preventing good thermal conductivity as well!
We had come up with temporary measures to restore the ground -- but clearly these measures were inadequate.
The factory mount is in a very inaccessible spot: there's simply not enough room to drill out the remains of an automotive grade bolt and re-tap the hole.
A friend and I had fabricated a "mounting adapter" and were toying with the idea of remote mounting the module. However we couldn't find a suitable spot on the car that would provide a clean electrical ground. (Without stressing the factory wiring harness.)
My roommate, a machinist and most certainly not a car guy, points to a flat surface and asks if it's "solid enough" to bolt the adapter plate to.
What he had pointed to was the power steering pump. Which for obvious reasons we could not drill into.
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However that suggestion ended up being the catalyst I needed to solve the problem. It was as if the whole engine bay became a puzzle.
You see: power steering pumps are made to be removed far more frequently than an intake manifold.
Initially I had thought the only way to repair the factory mount was to remove the intake manifold, which is an arduous task that involves removing many delicate assemblies for emissions and fueling.
Removing the power steering pump, though, was a considerably easier task! This would open up plenty of room in the engine bay; we could even use a typical cordless drill.
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Inspiration sometimes comes from the oddest places.
How to act on the proper solution (repairing the factory mounting plate) had eluded me for six months.
An absolutely bonkers suggestion ended up leading me down a much simpler path to success.
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#17Earlier quoted context omitted.
Dude I absolutely love being alone and "liberation", "freedom", and gaining "control" all resonate with me. No idea what "manifestation of an avoidant personality" means. "Relaxing", "exciting", and "interesting also apply. I do know that I'm terrible in a team and prefer working alone.
You sort of proved his point. Your preference for working alone is because you avoid being in a team.
That's quite an assumption to make. We could easily turn it on its head: My avoidance of being in a team is because of my preference for working alone.
I might indeed be terrible in a team, and sadly go off alone. I might be terrible in a team, and yet happily go off alone. I might be terrible in a team, because I enjoy being alone so much more, and so I rarely get any experience with being in a team. (And when I do, I might barely put in any effort because I find it so tedious and unpleasant compared to my preferred manner of working).
If I know I'm happy doing A, and there is a disjoint activity B, then naturally my tendency to A will reduce my time spent doing B. There may or may not be correlation.
Re: The power of lonely: What we do better without other people around
#18As someone who spends a good deal of time alone because I enjoy solitary pursuits, I disagree with the article when it claims that alone time is a form of "liberation", "freedom", and gaining "control". It's been my experience that people who use terms like these to describe their solitude don't actually really enjoy it much at all and tend to only seek this alone time as a manifestation of an avoidant personality. I…
That's pretty insightful. What I hear you saying, and I agree with what I hear, is that some look at alone time as a means of accomplishing a goal (freedom, et. al.) rather than pursing the solitary activity. Contrast that with myself (and I gather you as well) where I pursue a solitary activity for the sake of the activity, and the solitude is a side effect. When I'm riding a motorcycle to a far away destination or…
Sometimes I take up a solitary activity that I don't enjoy quite that much just for the sake of being alone. Going for a run in the morning somehow feels less weird than just sitting in my room staring at the wall. It also gets me away from the internet.
Now I could just be alone and away from the internet. But the mind is hyperactive and it craves distraction. That's when you have to trick it into accepting aloneness and nointernetness by giving it something better to do. Or simply forcing it to accept its fate.
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#19Earlier quoted context omitted.
You sort of proved his point. Your preference for working alone is because you avoid being in a team.
A good team is better than being alone. A bad team... well, I'll take alone any day over that.